• sartalon@lemmy.worldEnglish
    2·
    6 days ago

    I am 50 and was just recently diagnosed and started taking meds.

    The difference has been night and day. I still struggle to take my pull in the morning sometimes

    I look back on my life and wonder what I could have accomplished if I had been diagnosed and treated earlier.

    • MadMadBunny@lemmy.caEnglish
      32·
      10 days ago

      Okay but could we tone down the panic back to a more manageable level, like 9/10, instead of usual 28/10?

      • HikingVet@lemmy.caEnglish
        5·
        10 days ago

        How the fuck am I supposed to get anything done if I’m that calm? I need that stress or you need earplugs…

      • Valmond@lemmy.worldEnglish
        4·
        10 days ago

        I always blamed CPTSD for anger (like in being able to motor through things, not being angry at people) and stress. Worked for me, do not recommend.

  • jubilationtcornpone@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    62·
    10 days ago

    Lots of caffeine to bring you up during the day and alcohol to slow the racing thoughts at night. It’s no way to live.

    Every once in a while I still encounter parents who are hesitant to get their ADHD kid on meds. I try to explain to them that it’s not really about performance in school even if that’s where it was first noticed.

    It’s about keeping them from killing themselves or engaging in incredibly self destructive behavior.

      • MrScottyTay@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        6·
        10 days ago

        Please do, it’s very helpful in just the knowing aspect and being told explicitly how it can and does affect you. Can help you manage it better even when you’re not on meds

      • chocrates@piefed.worldEnglish
        4·
        10 days ago

        It has helped me mentally to understand. Medicine doesn’t do much except allow me to get things I just fucking don’t care about, done at work.

        If I want to be able to enjoy things in my free time I’ll have to be up all night, or drink myself asleep.

    • monkeyman512@lemmy.worldEnglish
      9·
      10 days ago

      I find doing CrossFit multiple times a week helps at night. Turns out if you are sufficiently physically exhausted the thoughts tend to slow down. But if they don’t that’s fine because you are liable to pass out as soon as you stop moving.

  • FreddiesLantern@leminal.spaceEnglish
    43·
    10 days ago

    Wait, the anger is a thing related to adhd?

    I always felt like somewhat of a nutcase for getting pissed off at stuff not working/going my way (shout at the pc until you figure out how to get the driver working again).

    Jogging/biking: get pissed, the burning anger gets you through.

    In an odd way anger manages to focus me but it’s just not a healthy way to live :/

    Edit/Disclaimer: I never said I shout at people.

    • porksnort@slrpnk.netEnglish
      12·
      10 days ago

      Anger is a natural result of discovering that your natural abilities are routinely exploited and taken for granted but your needs that are a direct result of those same abilities will not be met.

      My emotions are very well regulated, thank you. It is normal to feel anger when gaslit into thinking your normal human variation is a disorder.

    • monkeyman512@lemmy.worldEnglish
      8·
      10 days ago

      Yeah. Do some therapy and you will find out lots of things you “just do” are adaptations to compensate for ADHD. Shifting to healthier ways of doing things can be tough. It’s hard to let go of habits that have “worked so far”.

    • HootinNHollerin@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
      8·
      10 days ago

      I have been frustrated and angry easily for far too much of my life and I brought it up, among other issues to a psychiatrist and he said its also a symptom of bipolar type 2 as well as adhd.

      • Suck_on_my_Presence@lemmy.worldEnglish
        3·
        10 days ago

        One of the meds I’m on for anxiety (with the hope it’d help the ADHD) gives me symptoms of BPD as as side effect :))

        And now my impulse control is literally fucking zero at times

    • ryedaft@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      91·
      10 days ago

      There’s poor emotional regulation but adrenalin is also self-medication. So screaming at other people gets your adrenaline up which helps you focus and feel good. Obviously unhealthy and sucks for everybody around you. Very toxic.

      • Spaz@lemmy.worldEnglish
        1·
        9 days ago

        All i read is shouting at people makes me feel good. Gotta go try it out.

    • blipblip [they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
      3·
      10 days ago

      Yeah I didn’t know either until I got diagnosed and medicated, the anger is night and day with meds, all those little things that got me heated just don’t bother me the same.

    • KeenFlame@feddit.nuEnglish
      1·
      9 days ago

      Nah. It affects impulse control.

      Its good if you don’t yell at your computer, healthy if you think that is a bit nuts. It makes people and yourself feel bad.

      • FreddiesLantern@leminal.spaceEnglish
        1·
        9 days ago

        Again, I never said I shout at other people.

        Why does everyone immediately draw that conclusion? I do that shit in private like any other decent nutcase thank you very much.

          • FreddiesLantern@leminal.spaceEnglish
            1·
            9 days ago

            Well you kinda imply it by saying it makes people feel bad. Unless you mean people feel bad when they shout themselves. But that feels like a weird way of stating that.

              • FreddiesLantern@leminal.spaceEnglish
                1·
                6 days ago

                Ok, what did you mean by “ it makes =>people<= and yourself feel bad” then? (You know, clarifying a statement goes a long way…)

                • KeenFlame@feddit.nuEnglish
                  1·
                  6 days ago

                  When you shout at a computer, several things happen that makes people (including yourself) feel badly: For instance, people that are nearby can get scared and become wary. In addition, screaming can go through several walls or reach anyone passing by outside and they may not assume that you are shouting at a machine which can be very threatening and for certain people. I don’t think I need to go on, but I’ll add this as it seems it may be of help; your frustration is carried with you if you don’t let it out, but a good way to make sure that you carry it around your neck much longer, is to scream and act out on what’s nearby. Impulse control is a form of processing even if it feels great to give in to anger. Was definitely not obvious to me at least

    • setVeryLoud(true);@lemmy.caEnglish
      8·
      10 days ago

      Real question: what kind of content do you expect from this community?

      At its core, ADHD is just a vague, flexible list of symptom checkboxes that are part of the neurodivergent spectrum. Tick enough of the boxes, and you are considered ADHD. Tick enough of some other boxes, and you are considered autistic. Tick enough ADHD and autism boxes, and you’re AuDHD.

      The vast majority of people will tick at least one box from the neurodivergent list, this is what people mistakenly refer to as “everyone is a little bit autistic”, and is why these memes can apply to a lot of people, or not apply to you at all as someone with an ADHD diagnosis.

      Anyway, thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.

  • webghost0101@sopuli.xyzEnglish
    21·
    10 days ago

    Me, a Neurodivergent: i don’t need any of this pesky chemical stimulant stuff to get through life.

    Also me: Addicted to both caffeine and sugar.

  • bcovertigo@lemmy.worldEnglish
    18·
    10 days ago

    If you microdose a breakdown by crying in a closet afterwards you get extra cooldown reduction.

    • varyingExpertise@feddit.orgEnglish
      6·
      10 days ago

      Yeah, dunno. The problem is, that reality in this case is often perceived through a filter of “not being good enough” and “people dislike me” and stuff like that. It’s not really reality, is it.

      • nixus@anarchist.nexusEnglish
        9·
        10 days ago

        I always feel like my brain and my body are out of sync. When I used to smoke, it was like the gears suddenly synced up, and everything was running smoothly.

        But in the past year or so, it suddenly became ANXIETY: Full steam ahead!

        Brains are dumb

        • causepix@lemmy.mlEnglish
          2·
          10 days ago

          I’ve found sativa in particular can amplify any anxiety I’m having. Used to love it too lol, don’t know what happened.

          My adhd also goes off the wall though so it’s always fascinated me that people use it to manage theirs.

      • chosensilence@pawb.socialEnglish
        5·
        10 days ago

        i feel normal on THC. i don’t get couched anymore and haven’t for a long time. when i’m high it’s truly a mild psychoactive period and mostly a realignment of my nerves.

      • causepix@lemmy.mlEnglish
        2·
        10 days ago

        Have you experienced addiction with THC? I personally haven’t and I’ve used a lot of it. Maybe habitual, nothing like withdrawal symptoms, but I have a specific time of day that using it is even an option. Every body is different though so I’m genuinely curious.

        • joulethief@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish
          1·
          9 days ago

          Yeah I have, on multiple occasions.

          Been consuming since the age of ~19, sometimes more, sometimes less. When I do consume more, I tend to seclude myself and leave the apartment as little as possible. I just don’t feel like socializing and don’t have the energy for it. I usually recognize the actual addiction whenever I feel the strong urge to smoke weed, even though I don’t really want to in that moment.

          The withdrawal symptoms I experience are more like cravings and a grumpy mood, both of which subside rather quickly (few days). But the cravings are tough.

          Most time of the year my consumption is within reasonable limits and does not negatively impact my life. I don’t even smoke anymore, I’ve got my vaporizer for that. Weed has always has been my best bet for coping with ADHD symptoms. Shame that it just doesn’t play well with my anxiety.

  • qarbone@lemmy.worldEnglish
    131·
    10 days ago

    Haven’t any of y’all tried being incompetent?

    I try to avoid caffeine, so I just am unhelpful instead.

          • qarbone@lemmy.worldEnglish
            1·
            9 days ago

            Oh, I’m not diagnosed (I have a host of other things I would spend my nonexistant healthcare fund on first) but I have suspicions. It’s not debilitating, because I’ve been doing it for a couple decades now, but it sure isn’t ideal.

            • KeenFlame@feddit.nuEnglish
              1·
              9 days ago

              Augh, my condolences. Medication can be like a little renneissance but it’s so hard to hear it costs money… it sounds awful to have to think about health like that. For what it’s worth, maybe the cost of self medication could be another thing you get free from. But when it’s not debilitating, it’s not a diagnosis. Mine sure was when I didn’t think so for what that is worth

  • chosensilence@pawb.socialEnglish
    10·
    10 days ago

    i thought i could do this since i stopped taking Ritalin around 10/11. huge mistake, massive lol. i am now in a PHP for psychiatric intervention. i have fucked up oh boy.