I know this is a joke, but I really dislike these negative characterizations of adulthood, especially because they seem to just suggest that we should be complacent with this kind of dissatisfaction and discomfort as if it’s a intrinsic part of aging. I mean sure, maybe by the time you’re 70 a lot of this is unavoidable, but that’s far past being an adult. I often hear young people half-jokingly say that they may as well die by the time they turn 30. Interestingly, the same 30 to 50-year-olds who love to complain about teenagers dreading getting older are the same people who make them dread it by complaining about it. None of this stuff is really necessary to getting older, and again, I do understand that this is partially a joke, but I don’t know…
This isn’t being an adult. This is just taking bad care of yourself, physically and mentally. If you’ve always taken bad care of yourself, then it’ll start to pile up by the time you’re an adult. If you’ve always taken good care of yourself, that’ll also start to pile up by the time you’re an adult.
The spatula one hits home.
I had people over for thanksgiving and we had a conversation about my silicone spatula set and how much I like it. That felt more adult than a conversation about escrow.For me it’s more about some spatulas having more comfortable shapes.
Unfortunately my ex hit me with my favourite one and broke it against my arm. That might honestly be the one thing I’ll never forgive her, in the midst of all kinds of persistent abuse.
Don’t do this. I’m 19 and check most of those boxes.
Coming on 34 and i feel stronger than ever. Im an ectomorph and exercise for an hour every day though. I reckon exercise is the answer if you can do it!
Yeah begrudgingly I stared exercising last year (mid thirties too) and damn if I don’t feel much much better. Easier to get around, less creaks and groans, less heartburn, it does make me feel better. I hate doing it though
Your describtion sounds like old age + depression
old age=depression. There’s absolutely nothing that isn’t depressing about aging. I’ve watched my parents age to almost 100 and it’s something that makes me want to blow out my brains daily.
Where’s the anti-aging research? Can we stop with the pro-aging propaganda?
Unfortunately, anti aging is exercise(even light calisthenics like yoga and walking outside) , eating healthy(preferably as vegetarian as possible for heart health) , never stop learning and socializing.
Pro aging is modern living: sedentary, eating highly processed foods, being a shut in just consuming content.
From my experience, both are positive feed back loops. Being sedentary makes you tired. You are too tired to cook, so you eat what’s easy. It’s easier to stay home than going out. You dont sleep well from stress so you’re tired all day, over eating, and drinking as much caffeine as you’re body can handle.
Exercise gives you energy, better mood, reduces stress, helps you sleep better, which means you’re more likely to cook healthy, go out and socialize etc, etc.
It sucks because there’s inertia and, even when I was working out 3 or 4 times a week, I never felt happy about going to exercise until about halfway through or coming home.
I work in a hospital and see people with really bad quality of life. I know that obviously people in hospitals are sick, but with dementia in their 50s and 60 year olds that are just strong enough to walk to the bathroom with assistance I hope I die before any serious problems come up.
Why must life be so hard!
I feel personally attacked.
Constantly thinking of finances
- how much is it?
- do I need it?
- can I afford it?
- should I just forget about it? … yeah forget about it
This is really more about financial stress rather than adulthood. I was constantly on the verge of being broke until I became an adult and started working and (eventually) got a well paid job. Somewhat pedantic, I know, but financial stress is not an integral part of adulthood.
I have enough that I shouldn’t have to worry. The issue is that I grew up poor so not having enough is a constant worry that has followed me all my life.
It’s not thinking of finances because you don’t have enough … it’s thinking of finances because you want to be more responsible and thoughtful of how you use your money.
I have a friend who joked with me and said … ‘You aren’t cheap … you’re frugal’
Don’t forget
- Why did I buy this?
You weren’t supposed to buy and then forget it. You were supposed to forget about it before buying.
Closely followed by:
- Why didn’t I buy this earlier? This is such a time save/practical thing/now I really need it but its costs are tripled!
Followed by:
This has been in this closet and hasn’t been used for 10 years.
I better hold on to it. I might need it.
• do I need it?
Start there. If it’s not clearly a no, repeat multiple times over several weeks and one can quickly learn when to spent time thinking about these things.
A neat trick is to wait ten minutes … or walk away from something and go back to it later. If you truly need it, you’ll still want it. If you didn’t need it, you’ll forget about it.
Being an adult doesn’t mean you’re only entitled to buy stuff you need. Don’t forget to treat yourself or others once in a while if you can afford it and it’s something you really want.
The “everything hurts” part comes a lot later if you don’t live a sedentary lifestyle.
Even with an office job, you have at least 8 hours a day when you’re not forced to sit on a chair or sleeping. Use them!You don’t have to sit down at an office job either. Standing desks are great for staying more active IMHO.
We’re getting adjustable desks next year. Can’t wait!
Nice. We got convertible desks a few years ago. It’s done wonders for my weight management. My job requires me to step away from the computer frequently, and the ability to stand most of the work day just makes things feel easier.
That’s the only thing that hasn’t happened to me yet, but I see it in my cohort. I used to blame people for not being active enough, but now I realize we’re all just biological beings whose job is to reproduce, ensure offspring survival, then everything after that, there’s no real biological reason for it so nothing drives longer useful lifespan.
Oh well.
Yeah, many people have chronic illnesses that either cause pain or drain energy, and it becomes hard or impossible to remain active and pain-free. Ever since developing mine in late 20s, I’m far less judgemental and more understanding of people’s situations.
Well I wish the pay was better this is why I like having a cooking job. Literally busy moving all day. I don’t even have to exercise outside of work. Though I do go on a lot of bike rides.
At least half of that list applied to me when I was like 16.
They make emo spatulas?
“This one’s black, like my soul”
Threw my back out while unloading the dishwasher, while listening to quietly playing triphop, and wearing my comfy cardigan.
us as old fucks will no doubt be so much cooler than any old fucks before us. blasting the coolest musics, replaying the best video games, sneaking weed into everything.
no, no bias here
That sounds like me…
This, too, hurts.
I’m in this picture and I don’t like it
Do not touch my spatula
idk I had some of these before even reaching adulthood
- rather sleep than go out
- comfort before style
- always annoyed (if anything this was worse when I was younger)
- you had what it took to survive longer than those who burnt out before you
My entire friend group got hit with back pain in the same year as we’re about to hit our 30s. We’re a bunch of office workers who continue to sit in front of computers after work though so its completely on us. Trying to work on changing that
edit: disagree with the weight and going out parts though. I’ve still got that in me
Exercise can severely reduce or even eliminate back pain.
I’ve been running daily for about a month and a half. Because I got fat.
Everything hurts all the time but a couple more months of this and that’ll more or less stop and the back pain will be better once I’ve lost the weight.
Which I will. I’ve done it before. A bunch of times. So it goes.
Daily stretches no joke help a ton for aches and pains. Even better to also exercise. Once I started being serious, I was able to work through lower back and neck pain. Now I have to specifically screw up to hurt the next day.
… Too bad sleeping in the wrong position is “screwing up” these days, though…
