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    hits a little hard. broke off a long-term relationship a few months ago that I still feel

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      happens to the best of us. I’m single for nearly a month now and before the breakup we were together for over 8 years. Try not to worry too much and focus on yourself. Everything will work out in the end. :)

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        Yeah mine was 3.5 years. To be fair, I initiated it and I still think I made the right choice. But it’s really tough. It was definitely very special and I’ll miss parts of her for a long time. Doesn’t outweigh the emotional toll some of our mistakes had though. Definitely doesn’t help to care about her and also have to watch her heart get destroyed by my own choice :/

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      Same. Some days are good and some are bad. I’ve also been dreaming about her and emotions in general. It’s tough and it kills me that i caused her pain but i maintain it was the right decision.

      I just miss my best friend. A lot.

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        It’s just so hard that you can’t do anything about it. For them, you could solve it so easily by just coming back. But for you, you know that’s not an option because it can’t be. It sucks

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      Hey, you and everyone reading this need to take something from me, work on yourself, get to know yourself, don’t put so much energy into others and eventually you won’t even want a relationship you’ll be too in love with yourself to let another into that dynamic and risk it.

      Decades of relationships and this is a summary of what I’ve learned, don’t learn the hard way! Put yourself first asap, requiring another person for happiness is codependency at its finest, trust me I’ve been there.

      Don’t fret, much of the population is codependent, they just haven’t realized it. It’s super duper common. Society has taught us that relationships are a necessity in life so when we’re not in one we feel inadequate. That’s not true. You have you, and you are valuable.