My girlfriend says she doesn’t like that I don’t work and don’t do anything to “develop myself”. I have passive income that’s more than enough for us to live rather comfortably in the city I live in. I pretty much support her at the moment, as well as myself, but she says she doesn’t want to get a job because I don’t have one, and that annoys her that I’ll be able to sit at home and do what I want or just be busy with my hobbies.
I told her that I’m not forcing her to work, and even if she does work, she would only have to work like 2 days a week, not even a lot, but she says that it would bug her that I’m just sitting at home.
I get that she has the right to want someone who has ambition, but I also have the right to just live on what I have.
I told her that I’m willing to cook and clean and do most of the house work, but she says that she can do all of that by herself.
I’m assuming this is a Nobody Is the asshole situation?
I can understand her wanting you to be productive, but can’t understand her not being thrilled that you don’t have to work for money. I had a guy who lost his job and descended into rage and right wing racism because he stayed on the computer all the time, he definitely needed to work, so personally have some baggage about guys who don’t work (men wired to protect and provide can get crazy paranoid if they don’t think they are providing) and perhaps she has some experience informing her too but that’s her problem not yours. And I’d relax if you were taking care of the house and all, that IS productive work. Maintaining a property is hard.
If she wants more lifestyle she can work, and add that $ to the household income.