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Cake day: June 5th, 2023

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  • Just chiming in with the others that you’re describing genderfluidity! It’s helpful information if you’re interested in doing anything with it, but just knowing doesn’t mean you have to take steps towards any sort of transition.

    I began my transition under the genderfluid flag before realizing that I’m more genderflux (fluctuating intensity of gender, rather than fluctuating gender identity) between girl and “somewhere in the middle” - for me the question that helped me figure out what I wanted to actually do with that knowledge was “If someone just glanced at me for a second, what would I want them to assume I am?” And the answer is “girl” a lot of the time with “shrug” some of the time.

    I thought I was “fine” being a guy but damn did I hate myself. Now I love me and find me worth caring about, thanks to estrogen and self-care lol.

    Helps me a lot that my spouse is demi, and is my biggest supporter no matter how I present.










  • I wasn’t picking a fight though? I’m pointing out that someone used the wrong term for us, and explaining why that term is hurtful, with the context that there are people who use it that way on purpose to be hurtful.

    I am not accusing the OP of saying it hurtfully on purpose and I don’t comprehend why you’re so offended about it. Of course there are bigger discussions to be had, but this isn’t the place for that and I was not trying to start some big discussion or fight. I was informing someone of a way they can be kinder to people and avoid looking like they belong to those same hate groups that want us dead.

    Not sure which part got you riled up but it sounds like we’re on the same team here.




  • It sounds like you’re holding yourself hostage a little, and might want to take a step back and a deep breath. Evaluate your situation and see whether so much preparation and planning is really necessary - or whether you can just pick a small group you know will be supportive to come out to first, and then maybe just live as yourself?

    As for clothing being expensive: Thrift stores, thrift stores, thrift stores! I’ve built almost my entire wardrobe from thrifting and it’s been a delight to only spend $30-40 at a time for several different pieces.

    Edit : this was supposed to be in response to the main thread but ohwell