edit: I am a man and the only man in this scenario

This happened some time ago. I was driving and stopped on a gas station. probably for coffee and had to go pee. I saw a long queue of around fifteen to twenty exclusively 30-something girls, definitely bit older than me. They probably were a sports team, since there was a hired couch bus waiting outside and they were mostly wearing sweats. There were separate stalls for men and women (one each), so I went for the men’s room. It turned out locked, so I stood just outside it. One of the girls in the queue said that the back of the queue is “back there”. I replied “sure, but I’m going to the men’s room”, understandably assuming they were queueing for the ladies room. To which she said “yeah but there’s one queue for both”. I am familiar with the concept of shared queues, but mostly from supermarkets or post office, where you would queue for several checkouts and just go to the first one that is free. Never encountered shared queues for gender-separated toilets, so I said “but the toilets are separate, I’m going to the men’s room and you can queue for the ladies room” and simply went in without any more protest from them when the men’s room emptied (and it was another girl in there).

Were I the asshole?

  • @moipe@lemmy.world
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    11 year ago

    Uh… Yeah… The door opened and it was another girl in there proving they were in fact all in line for both. You cut in line.

    • nudny ekscentrykOP
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      1 year ago

      but it was marked “men’s toilet”, they clearly decided to use both in order to save time spent on the gas station

      • @moipe@lemmy.world
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        11 year ago

        The signage obsession feels crazy to me. There must be a cultural difference where signage supersedes reality. I mean you cut in line to save time at the gas station. I resign myself to not understanding at all, especially with most voices supporting you at the moment.

        • nudny ekscentrykOP
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          11 year ago

          I have no obsession of signage, but my understanding is the signage is there to control the flow of persons.

        • nudny ekscentrykOP
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          1 year ago

          To me this situation is analogous to priority seats in public transport. You can use them freely as long there’s no pregnant women, elderly, or disabled around, then you have to give up the seat to them.

          Me peeing before them delayed their departure by one minute. If I had to queue with all of them then my own departure would be delayed by 20 minutes

          Edit: don’t get me wrong, one should give up their seat to pregnant, disabled or elderly regardless of it being marked priority or not, but they do still get marked that way

          • @moipe@lemmy.world
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            11 year ago

            My understanding of proper procedure is that men can deal with the intrusion because they are less likely to have complications from holding it, can find a place to pee anywhere, and that an athletic team may have been on the road for hours before having a chance to use any bathroom. A female bus load will take over both bathrooms and a male bus load will have men scattered everywhere finding a safe place to pee in public or a different bathroom.

              • @moipe@lemmy.world
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                11 year ago

                Defo a cultural difference then, because where I am from that would definitely be a yta moment and someone might even ask if you were about to pee yourself.

                • nudny ekscentrykOP
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                  11 year ago

                  would you ask a pregnant lady whether she is about to give birth if she wanted to cut the line at a priority queue? because I wouldn’t. in fact, I would just let her in on sight and I would even feel ASHAMED if she had to ask.

                  also, had the roles inverted and it was I who wanted to go to ladies room so as to not queue to the men’s room, would you find that okay then? because if I were desperate then perhaps I could consider that, but definitely make sure I wouldn’t be inconveniencing any woman beforehand.

                  • @moipe@lemmy.world
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                    11 year ago

                    I am not going to be convinced to change my answer, I am sorry. In rural regions of the United States you would be considered very rude. Good news is, according to the reaction to my answer, elsewhere in the world you would not be considered rude.

                  • @Pasta4u@lemmy.world
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                    11 year ago

                    I’d offer to call an ambulance because a dirty ass men’s room isn’t a proper place to give birth