I (20M) was never really a social person and spendy my middle school alone but I was able to make some friends in high school

However, ever since I started my Bachelors I’ve struggled to make friends.

I’ve tried joining clubs or participating in events but even when I do manage to have successful conversations I can’t manage to turn that into a friendship. Considering how the year just ended I’m not going to have a chance

I never minded being alone when I was younger but my loneliness is really starting to really affect me.

I’ve lost any internet in watching tv shows or movies or playing any games, I can’t find the motivation to study and always feel tired.

I’ve also started to constantly fantasize about being in a romantic relationship and worry about if I’ll be alone for the rest of my life despite the fact that I’ve never had any interests in relationships or even an IRL crush.

I also have a porn addiction that’s growing worse and I’m worried about its long term effects on me.

I’ve also never had any online friends before which means I don’t know where to start.

I really need help.

  • @SGGeorwell@lemmy.worldEnglish
    8•6 months ago

    I found my improv class to be rather silly good fun, and everyone is nervous together.

    You could take a part time job near more people like a restaurant or somewhere with staff near your age.

    There are easy little classes like pottery or some shit you can just have a reason to be near people in a low-stress yet structured way.

    Sign language class is also surprisingly fun, and and it could be helpful to other people later perhaps.

    You could join a fitness club like running or biking or something. That will keep you fit and near other fit people. Healthy people have better sex.

    Community theater is also filled with possible fun people to know. Generally it’s a fun creative crowd to be around, you don’t have to be on stage, although you should aim for that, and everyone is mostly outgoing and there to be silly and happy.

    Go toward groups of people who are endeavoring to undertake some kind of task together. There will be music and girls eventually.