Asexuality doesn’t mean not being horny unfortunately. Just that its more annoying to deal with it. Even in my mid-20s or so, I’d still get horny regularly doing things like reading math textbooks and wouldn’t be able to focus. Ironically, I remember a month that I wasn’t horny at all was because I was infatuated with a girl, but had zero sexual attraction towards her. Since I was thinking about her all day, it killed my libido.
Starting spiro at ~30yo was great, finally getting rid of a curse. Not that I don’t get turned on sometimes still, but its rarer. Also I’ve always had kinky fantasies and that hasn’t changed.
Being (aro)ace just meant growing up wondering if people were lying about experiencing sexual attraction and being confused by things like dating (that could have been solved if I just knew aroace was a thing at a younger age and that aces could still be horny).
Thanks for this info, I had no idea. To be frank I can’t really wrap my head around the fact that you can be sexually aroused without actually wanting sex.
Asexuality doesn’t mean not being horny unfortunately. Just that its more annoying to deal with it. Even in my mid-20s or so, I’d still get horny regularly doing things like reading math textbooks and wouldn’t be able to focus. Ironically, I remember a month that I wasn’t horny at all was because I was infatuated with a girl, but had zero sexual attraction towards her. Since I was thinking about her all day, it killed my libido.
Starting spiro at ~30yo was great, finally getting rid of a curse. Not that I don’t get turned on sometimes still, but its rarer. Also I’ve always had kinky fantasies and that hasn’t changed.
Being (aro)ace just meant growing up wondering if people were lying about experiencing sexual attraction and being confused by things like dating (that could have been solved if I just knew aroace was a thing at a younger age and that aces could still be horny).
Thanks for this info, I had no idea. To be frank I can’t really wrap my head around the fact that you can be sexually aroused without actually wanting sex.