I am turning 18 tomorrow. Any life advice for me

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    4 days ago

    This was reported twice for not being a shower thought. The reporters are correct, it’s not strictly a shower thought.

    But thinking about getting older is something we all do in the shower, for multiple reasons :)

    Looks like people are mostly enjoying it so I’ll let it stay for now.

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    Here’s my rantomendation:

    Don’t hit, mame or kill anybody ever. That includes when driving.

    When driving pay attention to the road and only to the road. Ignore work or home or school problems. Don’t zone out.

    Listen to your parents but don’t listen to the parts that limit you. Be gay if you are or straight or smart or whatever, be you. But listen to the good advice.

    Fuck a lot

    Eat healthy

    Pay attention in school and learn from others. Be observant and follow in other people’s steps long enough to learn to blaze your own path.

    Don’t get a school loan or max out your credit cards.

    Work thru school in a light non interrupting way. Don’t get an 8hr job, just something part time.

    Get that diploma and go find a job where they pay you for what you know. Work on something you like to do. Work to live, not live to work. But to get here, don’t skip steps…sweep the floor before you shoot for CEO.

    Mourn your losses, everyone dies. Be happy with yours while you can. Family is everything and there’s not much more than your own personal desires beyond family. But if you don’t have kids by chance or by choice, still be happy. There’s plenty of people who choose not to have kids or be married or be in a relationship. Have bobbies. There’s a lot of you time towards the end part of your life. So Hobbies are good. Watching people is a hobby.

    Be at peace. Don’t hate and help others not hate. Racism is the worse. So if you can help a racist person to accept others then that’s good.

    • Darkassassin07@lemmy.ca
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      I’ve never understood the desire to stand while peeing. Sure; when you’ve got too - like outside - or if a toilet is filthy and you don’t want to touch it; but I’ve always been happy to take the opportunity to sit my lazy ass down for a minute. Plus I never have to worry about aim or cleaning up if I miss.

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    You spent 18 years learning to navigate a gated world. You will do just as much learning in the next 18 navigating a newly ungated one.

    Think about the sort of kindness you would want to treat a younger version of yourself as he fumbled through that learning. Practice treating your new “young” self with that kindness today. It will pay dividends.

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    3 days ago

    Take care of your teeth. Many loves will come and go in your 20s and maybe even 30s, but if its a life partner you want try focusing on yourself and they’ll appear out of thin air. Friends are important but not as important as inner peace. If a job offer 401k start investing as much as possible as soon as possible. Everyone is going through their own crazy messed up life so be kind. Puff, puff pass and enjoy your 20s as much as possible while not losing sight of your goals. Goals are EVERYTHING, set the achieve them and set them again. Heartbreak and death are integral parts of being human. It’s important to sit with and process the pain as long as YOU see fit. Death will come for someone you love someday, don’t let drugs or alcohol be your medicine

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    Go to the dentist, ask them how to take care of your teeth for the next 80 years, and do it.

    If that means cutting down on soda, or acidic espressos, or candy do it.

    If that means buying an expensive electric toothbrush with better toothpaste do it.

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      5 days ago

      And everyone is trying to muddle through, including your heroes. I think it’s good to keep this in mind; both to avoid feeling inferior for not having your shit figured out (because nobody has) and to be tolerant of people making mistakes – nobody’s perfect and everyone has issues besides getting your order exactly right.

      Be chill with yourself and with other people.

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        5 days ago

        Non withstanding there can be fundamental differences which no one tells you about (like neurodivergency) so if something feels very off, it might be.

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    Do you know what the genetic difference is between a human alive today and one who lived 100,000 years ago? Almost none.

    The real difference is shared knowledge. Every generation stands on the shoulders of those before it. You hold in your hands more understanding than any person in history could have imagined.

    You will always be ignorant, not as a flaw, but as a truth of being human. Accepting that is where real learning begins.

    Stay curious. Curiosity keeps you open to the world. It grows empathy, invites wonder, and reminds you that every person you meet carries a piece of the story you haven’t heard yet.

    And when you share what you’ve learned, don’t speak as though you hold the final word. Speak as someone who has explored, reflected, and arrived at their understanding with care.

    Learning is a lifelong conversation, one that connects you to every curious mind that ever lived. So keep asking, keep listening, keep growing. The future needs you.

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    5 days ago

    Don’t drink and smoke.

    Don’t put your dick in crazy

    Learn to shop, cook and eat without highly procesed foods

    Clean the toilet when you are done

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      4 days ago

      Adding to this:

      Save as much as you can. One day, you’ll need it.

      Take care of your teeth. It’s the only set you get, and it sucks when you start having problem.

      Drink water. Lots. You do not want to experience a kidney stone.

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        Save as much as you can… but don’t skimp out on quality of life.

        Too many people I’ve see pinch pennies to save only to end up dead or in a place that couldn’t enjoy it. Make sure to take time out for yourself while you can before it’s too late

        Basically mine would be “all things in moderation”

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          Obviously, making time for yourself is a good thing. If you’re miserable, there isn’t much point!

          I guess this is more a consequence of my living in a very consumer-oriented society that the importance of saving is so prevalent. Plenty of fun can be had for little to no money.

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        4 days ago

        Take care of your back and knees too. You really don’t want to fuck those up because they will be lifelong pain if you do.

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      4 days ago

      Don’t drink and smoke.

      Don’t put your dick in crazy

      I mean, I agree, but I think it’s more fun to find this out for yourself.