• dandelion (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    I mean, his strategy didn’t work - but what is disturbing is that there are women who have low self esteem or were raised to be submissive and “traditional”, and his behavior acts as a filter, so that only those women will date him …

      • explodicle@sh.itjust.works
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        That’s why I would always talk about religion and politics on the first date. It’s gonna come up, it’s most likely gonna introduce a deal breaker (Americans suck), so let’s check early.

        “Who does that on the first date? You’re weird, Explodicle!” Yeah I know, weird dates only please.

        • SkyeStarfall@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          The older I get the more absurd it sounds to me whenever anyone tells me “keep social/romantic life and politics separate!”

          No. Politics relate to our fundamental values. In addition they relate to our control of the environment. There’s almost nothing better to talk about than politics

          You dont build a relationship on the kind of pizza toppings you like

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            you don’t build a relationship on the kind of pizza toppings you like

            So in my early 20s I had this gf who I would go shoplifting with, and make food for unhoused people with.

            Pizza toppings were a genuinely large part of that relationship.

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          Right? They’re going to experience the full force of your personality sooner or later. Why not discover any incompatibilities early?