None of this is an issue, unless you are a creep who is interested in riding that barely legal line for thrills. That in and of itself is a creepy thing in my opinion, I don’t condone it, especially if you are specifically trying to blur that legal line for yourself. You’re playing with a hideous fire. You’re asserting that those 5 years, from 13 to 18, make a big difference somehow, but there are 12 years from when a person turns 18 to when they are 30 years old. Shoot for that range and stick to the plenty of reliable online spaces providing LEGAL ADULT models, and that should be as far as you have to think about it. I’m writing this message as a courtesy to you in your life. Stop worrying about this question at all and play it safe ALWAYS. Prioritize legal agency first and foremost, then you can get more creative within that framework as you and your partner become familiar. Don’t focus on the young as possible thing AT ALL is my advice, and especially don’t perseverate on it as much as you are here unless you are writing legislation on it or something. When I was a dating adult, I actually wouldn’t date under 21, because that, in my opinion, is an actual adult with a couple years of adult experience under their belt. There are very few reasons to be worried about someone’s specific age within this relatively short span of someone’s life.
The app mentioned here is disgusting and I’m blown the fuck away that it is not illegal already, btw… Full stop
None of this is an issue, unless you are a creep who is interested in riding that barely legal line for thrills. That in and of itself is a creepy thing in my opinion, I don’t condone it, especially if you are specifically trying to blur that legal line for yourself. You’re playing with a hideous fire. You’re asserting that those 5 years, from 13 to 18, make a big difference somehow, but there are 12 years from when a person turns 18 to when they are 30 years old. Shoot for that range and stick to the plenty of reliable online spaces providing LEGAL ADULT models, and that should be as far as you have to think about it. I’m writing this message as a courtesy to you in your life. Stop worrying about this question at all and play it safe ALWAYS. Prioritize legal agency first and foremost, then you can get more creative within that framework as you and your partner become familiar. Don’t focus on the young as possible thing AT ALL is my advice, and especially don’t perseverate on it as much as you are here unless you are writing legislation on it or something. When I was a dating adult, I actually wouldn’t date under 21, because that, in my opinion, is an actual adult with a couple years of adult experience under their belt. There are very few reasons to be worried about someone’s specific age within this relatively short span of someone’s life.
The app mentioned here is disgusting and I’m blown the fuck away that it is not illegal already, btw… Full stop
It’s also super easy to figure out if someone isn’t 21- invite them to a bar that doesn’t serve food. Boom move on.