I grew up with a thick Australian accent with a drawl I dislike, and have been consciously trying to change it for a while. The problem is I tried to make it sound more American at first but keep getting drawn to speaking “Britishly”. Now it’s a Frankenstein of all 3 accents and I don’t know what to go with.
Some points for both:
▪︎ American accent sounds “cooler”
▪︎ British accent sounds more “proper and elegant”
- Australian accent sounds more “relaxed” (but I dislike this for myself, personally).
No serious linguist would advise you to change your accent like this. It’s artificial and unlikely to succeed entirely, as you’ve noticed - accents are a reflexive, instinctive thing, difficult to rewire. The characteristics of the accents you mention (what you’re referring to are probably General American accent and British “Received Pronunciation”, which are far from univesal American or British accents) are shaped purely by (pop) culture. That includes the judgment on how good an accent sounds. Is it really a coincidence that the British royalty uses an accent that sounds “elegant”?
You don’t appear to have any external reason to change your accent. If you live in Australia and talk with Australians, why would you want to sound like a non-Australian? Why do you want to sound non-relaxed?
Look, I found the one person on earth who doesn’t know who Kelsey Grammer is. I had no idea that “serious linguists” were dumb shits.