How does this work if the friends and family don’t use that particular instant messenger, or have a smartphone (don’t forget that many older people have simple phones or use them in simple ways, and a PC)?
Can they access the photos and videos with external links? If so, that sounds reasonable. Assuming OP is able to transfer the photos and videos to their phone for this too, I think telegram is just a phone application but I’m not entirely sure.
Telegram. Set up a Telegram group, upload the videos there. Have full control over who sees the videos.
Don’t use Telegram.
Why?
Russian bots and disinformation, shady business practices, hosting on Tencent servers, etc.
Those are definitely issues, but are they really a problem for what OP wants to do?
Yes, as the chinese have access to Tencent’s services and are not to be trusted with your personal data
How does this work if the friends and family don’t use that particular instant messenger, or have a smartphone (don’t forget that many older people have simple phones or use them in simple ways, and a PC)?
Can they access the photos and videos with external links? If so, that sounds reasonable. Assuming OP is able to transfer the photos and videos to their phone for this too, I think telegram is just a phone application but I’m not entirely sure.