I started calling them by their first name when I thought I was old/adult enough not to say mom and dad anymore. My sister does the same.
But this has also been different from every side of our family. I speak a T-V language so we have formal and informal. My father and all his family were formal with their parents. And my mother was informal with her parents. In the end, I went in between. I use informal with my parents and call them by their names.
My bother in law noted that and brought it up. Apparently, it’s weird and disrespectful from his point of view. Yet, to me it’s quite normal.
How can a 16 years old teenager feel comfortable saying “mom and dad”? To me, ditching those terms meant that I was not a child anymore.
I’m not American though. And English is not my native language.
But it just felt too close to continue calling them m’man and p’pa while I became an adult. I was a “rebel teenager” and didn’t want to spend time with my family. Much less call them “mom and dad”. And they stopped using the diminutive of my name years ago anyway. So I just did the reverse.
I started calling them by their first name when I thought I was old/adult enough not to say mom and dad anymore. My sister does the same.
But this has also been different from every side of our family. I speak a T-V language so we have formal and informal. My father and all his family were formal with their parents. And my mother was informal with her parents. In the end, I went in between. I use informal with my parents and call them by their names.
My bother in law noted that and brought it up. Apparently, it’s weird and disrespectful from his point of view. Yet, to me it’s quite normal.
How can a 16 years old teenager feel comfortable saying “mom and dad”? To me, ditching those terms meant that I was not a child anymore.
Well, for starters, they’re still your mom … and your dad.
To me its weird, is it an american thing? Whats wrong with calling your mom and dad mom and dad?
I’m not American though. And English is not my native language.
But it just felt too close to continue calling them m’man and p’pa while I became an adult. I was a “rebel teenager” and didn’t want to spend time with my family. Much less call them “mom and dad”. And they stopped using the diminutive of my name years ago anyway. So I just did the reverse.