Sounds like a great book that will sell well and sit on bedside tables in piles of books that people really need to read soon.
who are you and why are you attacking me like this
I’m just married to someone with a dusty pile of books on their bedside table
What else would you put on there anyways?
Funny you mention that, I just bought a book yesterday that I’m planning to add to the pile of books on my bedside table.
I’m in this picture and I don’t like it
first draft is done
The most unrealistic part of this comic lol
I’m sorry for posting actual self-help, it’s not my intention to be toxic, but your mention of “first draft” has triggered a kind of fixed action pattern in me, where I am compelled to share this axiom that I find reassuring: The first draft is always perfect.
Oh I didn’t intend on taking a shot at anyone. It was just some glib commentary on how we often struggle to even start doing things.
You’re good. I didn’t think you were, just know that self-help can be toxic, so didn’t want anyone to think I was actually advocating for rah rah bootstraps manifest this mind over matter that, etc
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Which part?
This actually made me feel bettee. I have to print this on my wall so when my elaborate idea doesnt turn out perfect on first try I can remember it’s not supposed to be perfect
Not if you consider that is the first and final draft at the same time lol
😂😭
More like, how to survive without the required psychopathic tendencies.
“I really don’t want to cut the legs out from under my fellow people so I can get my bread. That’s mean.”
“Well hey now we just call that ‘being competitive in the workplace’. How are you going to hold a basic job and keep paying your bills under this system then?”
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Yep, so many “self help” books have such great advice like “No energy? Have you tried going for a walk?”. WITH WHAT ENERGY‽‽‽
Sadly a lot of this stuff is a snowball effect though. You just have to push through and do it, and over time it gets easier and easier. I know this is easier to say than it is to do but it’s the sad reality. For some, meds may be what they need to give them that first initial strength to get the ball rolling, some may need support from friends or family or some may be able to just power through despite feeling shitty to do so. Keep fighting the fight! The wall will crumble eventually.
Great job being the sucky books. You completely nailed it and proved why this post exists by saying the same obnoxious things I’ve heard 5,000 times. I have an incurable chronic illness, that wall ain’t crumbling anytime soon short of a major advance in medical science. If I’m too exhausted to get to the toilet without help, how am I supposed to push through that?? Oh wait, I’ve tried pushing through that, you wanna guess what happens? I pass out, fun times.
The sad reality is people like you making assumptions about why someone they do not know is struggling. You are telling me I need to do something that is physically impossible. So yeah, saying it is easier than doing it when it can’t be done. I push through so much crap, an absurd amount of it, but when I hit my breaking point I stop. Pushing through has caused me more harm than good. And then people like you come along and tell me I “just have to push through”. NO! I’m gonna stick to respecting my body enough to listen to what it’s telling me.
I don’t think self help books are for you
Sorry to impose my experiences on your own. It’s true that it doesn’t work for everyone, I’m sorry that you’re not one of them. I hope you get the help you need however it is
(I’ve never read a self help book in my life - I was just using my own personal anecdotal experience to hopefully help others similar to myself)
Have you tried drinking 3 Charged Lemonades™ from Panera Bread©?
I tried that once. I died.
Seeing as I can’t really have caffeine, no, I haven’t.
I’ve had psychiatrists push this crap.
One even refused to write me a prescription and insisted I just needed to get outside more after listening to an hour-long recounting of how my ADHD makes self-care difficult to impossible.
I had a psychiatrist send me off with the helpful suggestion to start working out, I was a lifeguard and literally had to work out to keep my job. He also told me I couldn’t have ADHD because I’d graduated high school, without checking if I actually had. Like I did, but he just assumed that. The kid who showed up twice a week and turned in work never also graduated. My school had an excellent graduation rate, just ignore all the people who graduated unable to read past a 5 year old level.
I’m still undiagnosed, though not for lack of trying. One doc wanted me to stop literally every medication I was on for like an entire month “to get a baseline”, and when I refused he prescribed me something I couldn’t take anyway, and I never went back. I’m chronically ill, that would literally land me in the hospital.
That’s some awful gaslighting.
I have no idea how these people make it through 8-12 years of college without even getting their understanding of common diseases up to a wikipedia level.
Yeah, like it’s terrifying that people can go through a decade of education and training and still not have a grasp on some of the basics of their field. I expect to have to explain my migraine because I have a pretty rare subtype (like I’m the first person my neurologist has treated), but I shouldn’t have to explain why I can’t take a medication that says on the pamphlet “DO NOT TAKE IF YOU HAVE [CONDITION I HAVE]”. I’m not expecting every doctor to understand a neurological condition that affects less than 1 in 8,000 people, but I do expect them to accept that I do have it and not treat me like I’m being uncooperative for not being willing to risk a significant increase in risk of life threatening side effects.
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What but what’s in the book though??? I need that information
My favorite is all the “time management / your own business / quit your job / you can follow your dreams too” books.
Every inside cover: "Bob McBourgoi was just like you, making $500k a year in a soulless corporate job, but like you, he wanted something more from life.
He decided to quit that job (so scary!) and use a fraction of his $80k in savings and a humble plea for a $100k loan from his parents (so brave!) to start on his dream life of being a (game designer / pet stylist / interior vibe checker / indie band frontman / painter).
It was super risky. Could he really tell his Real Housewife that he was turning down the cashflow for a few months? But he took the leap. What a brave guy.
He even wrote this book. All by himself. Definitely. It includes such advice as “If you just believe in yourself” and “manifest that dream” so you too, can do something with your life that’s actually your choice."
Bonus points for “Have you tried using a calendar?” And “The clock is a useful tool to know what time it is.”
Obvious for everyone else, and ADHD kids go screw (y)ourselves basically lol.
It’s just one page and it’s Omni-Man saying “That’s the neat part, you don’t!”
Glad to see comic from HotPaper. Hope, he is doing great
Strange that they are just posting on twitter. No website or nothing.
Nothing to manage, still reaching their audience.
Completely shackled to one (dying) provider. Long term, this is going to bite them in the arse.
Sounds like something to put in the second volume of the book.
Very very dumb business decision for someone who makes money online.
This is too empowering. I prefer to think of myself as damaged beyond all hope.
In a capitalist hellscape, any amount of damage is damaged beyond all hope because everyone is completely interchangeable, and ultimately, disposable.
So, y’know, you’re not wrong.
You are clearly high.
But which mental illness?
Mark Fisher energy
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not really
If something is relevant to having and living with ADHD, it’s relevant to this community, regardless of whether you think it’s ‘political’ or not. This is relevant. Dealing with life with ADHD means dealing with so-called ‘political’ bullshit every day, so…
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Everything is political, you don’t get to decide what’s okay or not okay depending on how you personally feel about it.
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ADHD is a mental illness due to it being a disorder. The lack of dopamine uptake is a disorder, as well the symptoms negatively affecting day to day activities and lifestyle is a disorder. I understand the dislike of the term “mental illness” because it has a negative connotation, but it’s the truth, and overcoming it requires treating it as such. I’ve had to come to this realization myself after years of self hate and blame, and my therapist really helped put it into perspective.
That might be medically correct but lacks the neurodiversity approach.
Adhd also makes people be quick on their feet, often funny and cool to be around.
Not being able to sit for 8 hours in a boring setting is not a mental illness. Doing so is.
And just because the majority of people has that illness doesnt mean they get to define what is sick. (Yes, technically they do but its wrong)
The self hate and the blame (and the depression etc.) are mental illnesses and I, too, have benefited greatly from tackling them as such with therapeutic help. But these are comorbidities; they’re secondary to ADHD which to me is a neurological issue.
