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Cake day: 2023年10月3日
  • shneancy@lemmy.worldtoScience Memes@mander.xyz•SoupEnglish
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    17 小时前

    vegetable flavoured water? thinnest of broths? realistically, we call it nothing because what would you even do with something that’s 15% vegetable puree and 85% water? my only idea would be to add more vegetables to make it into something, or to use it as i’d use regular water to boil other vegetables or make pasta in it

  • shneancy@lemmy.worldtoScience Memes@mander.xyz•Pika PikaEnglish
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    1 天前

    a cheap phone today is better than a digital camera from 15-20 years ago. but neither can stand up to analogue cameras that use film. we can extract 4k video from footage shot on film in the 80’s (any film footage really, but i mention 80’s because the music video for Last Christmas available on youtube in 4k is a wonderful example)

  • shneancy@lemmy.worldtoScience Memes@mander.xyz•Pika PikaEnglish
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    1 天前

    depends on your definition of novice.

    a novice that is incredibly passionate and has been absorbing knowledge and experience at a fast pace? sure

    a novice that just got a camera who’s shooting in .jpeg and has yet to hear of lightroom? (or alternative photo editing software) no

  • shneancy@lemmy.worldtoADHD@lemmy.world•Is it normal for ADHD people to find it hard to cum because you think about laundry?English
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    3 天前

    it takes some time to learn how and when to safeword. from experience i know that the most common thing stopping someone, both doms and subs, from using them is guilt - they don’t want to stop the play when they see the other person is having fun, perhaps it’s that?

    if i were you i’d try to have that conversation again, try to stress the importance of clear and undeniable consent. how if they want to be treated roughly you need to feel safe doing it, and knowing that they will communicate when they get uncomfortable gives you that safety. but of course, i don’t know the whole context of your relationship so i don’t know if this would work, all i can do is wish you the best with that!

  • shneancy@lemmy.worldtoADHD@lemmy.world•Is it normal for ADHD people to find it hard to cum because you think about laundry?English
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    3 天前

    may i introduce you to - safewords & colour checks! :D

    establish safewords with your partner, the deafult ones are:

    green - keep going i like this

    yellow - approaching my limit let’s pause

    red - stop immediately and proceed to aftercare

    at any point during play you can then ask them “colour?” and in a quick and definitive way you get to know how they feel and if it’s too much. (this also goes the other way! don’t be afraid to safeword as a dom if things get uncomfy for you). this helps a lot with the variety of things you can try out during a scene because it cuts short the worrying if your partner likes it or not, or if they mean the “stop” when they actually want you to keep going.

    bdsm is more than just the hot stuff, it’s systems and safeties that allow the hot stuff to flourish safely and hot-ly <3

    but i get ya, sometimes you want the same thing but a little to the left, and/or to loop the good moment in your mind. nothing wrong with that