I don’t have any issue talking to girls when the intent is not romantic/sexual. OK I have met someone, first few conversations went alright, how do I transition to something else without being embarrassed and feeling like a dick? Like, if I want to say something technical or communicate for something else, everything is fine. Otherwise, I feel very embarrassed and feel like I will be disgusting to her if I said something… I guess it is me trying to be OK with everyone and not have more people hate me… I don’t know if I can take any more people hating me… makes me feel worthless…
Where people get into trouble is when they assume that because the other person is being nice to them, it means they’re interested in something more. I know women who say they can hardly smile at a guy without being asked out on a date. But of course sometimes that are interested, and it can be hard to know without asking, which can be awkward for both.
If you think she might potentially be interested, you might consider inviting her to something casual, like getting a meal or seeing a movie. That in itself won’t tell you she’s interested, but if she’s not interested in something casual, she likely isn’t interested in more than what you have.
Suggesting something like lunch, coffee, or ice cream is a nice, casual place to start. Dinner, movies, or “a drink” can seem like bigger asks–more officially date-like, more expensive, etc. More casual activities can be a good way to start to get to know someone and whether you and they might be interested in each other.