You live your life in a way that makes other people want to be a part of it. Then eventually you find someone you want in your life. Next you decide to journey together long-term and help each other with each other’s problems.
Somewhere along the way you get the government involved—this is the part I don’t really understand but whatever.
“You live your life in a way that makes other people want to be a part of it.”
That is really well put, and exactly what happened for me. I met my wife in circumstances that it would be impossible to ask anyone to replicate (to quote Dylan, “I helped her out of a jam, I guess”), but the important thing was that at the time we met we’d both done enough work on ourselves to be someone that it was easy for the other to fall in love with.
That really is the best dating advice; work on yourself. Obviously, on a practical level, put yourself out there; use dating apps, go to speed dating, find social venues that align with your hobbies and interests, and so on. But most of all, put the work into yourself. Therapy will do more for your romantic life than any makeover or platitudes about being confident.
You live your life in a way that makes other people want to be a part of it. Then eventually you find someone you want in your life. Next you decide to journey together long-term and help each other with each other’s problems.
Somewhere along the way you get the government involved—this is the part I don’t really understand but whatever.
“You live your life in a way that makes other people want to be a part of it.”
That is really well put, and exactly what happened for me. I met my wife in circumstances that it would be impossible to ask anyone to replicate (to quote Dylan, “I helped her out of a jam, I guess”), but the important thing was that at the time we met we’d both done enough work on ourselves to be someone that it was easy for the other to fall in love with.
That really is the best dating advice; work on yourself. Obviously, on a practical level, put yourself out there; use dating apps, go to speed dating, find social venues that align with your hobbies and interests, and so on. But most of all, put the work into yourself. Therapy will do more for your romantic life than any makeover or platitudes about being confident.
Hopefully you didn’t use too much force
Well, the goal was “help out a stranger in need” and I landed at “happily married”, so I definitely overshot the mark on that one 😅