• unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de
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    Nah hated is entirely possible. Depends entirely on the mother and if she has the emotional and rational capacity to separate it. If her brain makes her think of her rapist every time she looks at her child, it will be impossible to love it.

    I hope she can love it but i wouldnt blame her if she cant.

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      4 months ago

      I’ll blame any parent that forces their trauma onto an innocent child.

      And I say this as a rape victim and a child abandoned at birth.

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        The whole idea of “trauma” is that its involuntary. You dont have a rational choice, your brain makes the choice for you.

        If you have trauma of that level you either go with therapy or put your child up for adoption. Its not something you can solve with willpower.

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          Right and if you don’t do those things, and instead take it out on an innocent child I’m going to blame the fuck out of you.

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            I don’t mean to be even more dystopian, but doesn’t the biological father have to consent to adoption/get first rights to adopt?