How to get out of an uncomfortable egg culture situation with this one simple trick.
Real talk: Calling people eggs is a violation of the egg prime directive, and is considered invalidating as you are trying to say that a person is not the gender they identify as, that their identity is invalid. Don’t call people eggs, like ever, it’s extremely uncool.
This is exactly my point. We don’t. We don’t need to make inferences beyond how they can be used to help people. We can fairly confidently say that it is harmful and cruel to police gender identity and that affirmation is the best way to handle us. We don’t need to bring speculative science into the discussion of how to treat trans people in society, because it just doesn’t change much.
Our understanding of ASD and ADHD was changed in my lifetime in a way that has drastically impacted my care. I didn’t fit into the old understanding of how it worked because doctors tried to fit me into their limited understanding, ultimately missing how their decisions impacted my life. Their refusal to diagnose me as a kid impacts the services I can receive today, intersecting with socioeconomic factors to limit my treatment based on where I live. Their ideas weren’t just theoretical for me, but consequential to my material reality.
I am someone with some experience in psychological research, and one thing people fail to appreciate is how little we actually understand everything. Most psychologists don’t even appreciate why or how we can we use our medical model to describe human differences. They don’t understand that the way society itself is structured directly determines whether a condition is a disorder. They don’t take into account what is necessary to define and what isn’t, flopping around in uncertainty in a way that can cause irreparable harm.
My problem isn’t with your understanding of gender, but your understanding of psychology. It’s fine to think it might work one way or the other, except for the fact that it might actually affect people’s lives. When it comes to treatment of trans people, we don’t need to make any inferences beyond that we exist and deserve respect. We should be given control of our own bodies and lives; the why is interesting, but not exactly important to that view. How to help people is all our medical model can say about people.