• JoYo 🇺🇸@lemmy.ml
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    9 days ago

    “You can see a little bit of risk aversion among young men,” Reeves says. “Partly because they are largely, and I think incorrectly, worried about the risks that are going to come from putting yourself out there.”

    OK, what are the risks men say they are worried about that you reject so soundly?

    TLDR: Don’t worry, just put yourself out there bro. Just get out of your comfort zone, bro.

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      9 days ago

      You apparently skipped over all the words before and after what you quoted:

      With many women no longer willing to accept ghosting, noncommitment, and harassment, men may be forced to change their ways or face being shut out of the dating pool. By and large, Reeves says the men he has spoken to understand this; they know what not to do — “don’t mansplain, don’t be toxic, don’t be a predator … don’t be a creep” — but they’re at a loss for what is acceptable when trying to date.

      “You can see a little bit of risk aversion among young men,” Reeves says. “Partly because they are largely, and I think incorrectly, worried about the risks that are going to come from putting yourself out there.”

      All social interaction carries some form of risk, a potential for rejection, but the alternatives to dating available in the modern dating landscape make putting yourself out there even less appealing.

      It goes on

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          The implication of the article is that men fear a woman will have second thoughts and cry rape after the consensual sex is done.

          But while this is a risk—albeit unlikely—it’s a smaller risk when compared to actual rape.

          What a lot of people are not acknowledging is that men have a social expectation of expressing interest first, and in many ways, that is a privilege.

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      8 days ago

      To achieve stuff you most of the time need to get out of your comfort zone. But it on parents to slowly teach their children to overcome fears. It gets much more difficult when you are grown up.