Yup. And I think that once again, a large part of this is the influence of the ‘manosphere’ putting bullshit into their heads.
There’s been a couple of occasions having this conversation where people respond to me and say they don’t listen to Jordan Peterson or whatever but they’re still lonely. But then they’ll say something like “I need marriage and children to be a complete human being or else I’m a failure in life. And I’ve been robbed.” I mean, what the fuck. They’re just kids or young adults.
So these guys are attempting relationships with all of this heavy shit about marriage and children and status and ownership in mind and chasing people away. I would run away too if someone started making wedding plans on the second date. And they’re not looking for a person that they get along with and can spend the rest of their life with, they’re looking for someone who can make their babies for them. Ewww.
Honestly sometimes this ‘manosphere’ shit is a little bit like purity culture. And it sometimes reminds me of some of the more cultish churches I’ve come across that push 18 year old kids who are dating into early marriage or else they’re “living in sin”. In fact I’m pretty sure that there’s a religious right wing agenda behind it.
These kids need to stop clutching their pearls and acting like religious fanatics and just have some fucking fun. Go into things with zero expectations. Have one night stands. Enjoy their youth. And if in the process of that, they meet ‘the one’, then that’s a bonus. They don’t need to be tied down with kids and bills to pay by the time they’re 21 just to be seen as any more of a ‘man’. In fact that would just be sad.
What kind of person do you think are attracted to dangerous assholes? Likely someone that cares more about the status than the actual person that is their partner.
Hot take:
If you try dating with this concept of a relationship, it probably won’t go well for at least one of the parties involved.
Yup. And I think that once again, a large part of this is the influence of the ‘manosphere’ putting bullshit into their heads.
There’s been a couple of occasions having this conversation where people respond to me and say they don’t listen to Jordan Peterson or whatever but they’re still lonely. But then they’ll say something like “I need marriage and children to be a complete human being or else I’m a failure in life. And I’ve been robbed.” I mean, what the fuck. They’re just kids or young adults.
So these guys are attempting relationships with all of this heavy shit about marriage and children and status and ownership in mind and chasing people away. I would run away too if someone started making wedding plans on the second date. And they’re not looking for a person that they get along with and can spend the rest of their life with, they’re looking for someone who can make their babies for them. Ewww.
Honestly sometimes this ‘manosphere’ shit is a little bit like purity culture. And it sometimes reminds me of some of the more cultish churches I’ve come across that push 18 year old kids who are dating into early marriage or else they’re “living in sin”. In fact I’m pretty sure that there’s a religious right wing agenda behind it.
These kids need to stop clutching their pearls and acting like religious fanatics and just have some fucking fun. Go into things with zero expectations. Have one night stands. Enjoy their youth. And if in the process of that, they meet ‘the one’, then that’s a bonus. They don’t need to be tied down with kids and bills to pay by the time they’re 21 just to be seen as any more of a ‘man’. In fact that would just be sad.
Feels right
Relevant XKCD.
… do people even know what a Bel Air is anymore? I think it was completely displaced by Rickrolling.
That expectation applies to everyone.
What kind of person do you think are attracted to dangerous assholes? Likely someone that cares more about the status than the actual person that is their partner.