• RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world
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    Wildly unbalanced capitalism without strong controls and social policy. All systems seem to fall prey to corruption because people try to corrupt the system to enrich themselves and their friends, then cement their gains with whatever power they can flex.

  • Bubbaonthebeach@lemmy.ca
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    Women have almost always through history needed a male supporter for housing or they needed to live in family cooperative situations.

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      When ‘women’s rights’ became a thing,and women could live as independent humans, young widows became an oddity.

      I guess you can’t make an omelette without breaking a few eggs.

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        I think the rise in marriage age and reduction in wars also helped. Used to be a 21 year old mother of two lost her husband in some battle or workplace accident.

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          Killin your husband is a proud tradition we lrt go of as a people. It was like the one cool thing the heteros gave us. Maybe also half of freddie mercury.

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            Idk I’m a lot happier in a world where people can just leave. Like killing your abusive spouse when its your only option is one thing, but it’s a tragedy that it has to happen.

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              Generally, yes, but my dating life has suffered from a severe deficit of young widows, and im only juuuuust getting to the age where an older one might consider me.

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    There’s a damn good reason why we in the working class are gaslit and prodded into converting our romantic relationships into glorified labour arrangements (ie, marriage) as soon as possible - intimacy requires time and energy… time and energy that, under a capitalist system, must be spent labouring for the parasite class and nothing else.

    It’s also the reason why any children that results from such intimate relationships must be mass-corraled into glorified creches (ie, our so-called “education system”) at the first opportune moment - we can’t have the working class spend any undue amount of time actually doing any parenting, now can we?

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    So hey, all of the places who claim not to be capitalists, are you saying those places are not corrupt or that their corruption is of a different type? Or is there no such place and therefor a word without any distinction?

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    Ugh thanks for an unpleasant flashback :(

    Ex was cheating all over town and my only choice for over six months was either put up with it or be homeless

    I once told this story on reddit, and the majority consensus was that it was my fault for not working harder or whatever

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        Whereas my unsolicited advice as a lemming is way more fun. So, to start with, im gonna need you to get an obsidian dagger, and look up where to buy live chickens.

        Also, get some gloves, bleach, and antiemetics; this is gonna get messy.

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          lol, I have been thinking about rules for a competition where you go on reddit to see if you can get certain types of disproportionate responses:

          • most innocuous foible for which someone recommends a divorce

          • most inoffensive post about Japan that causes someone to complain about WW2 war crimes

          • most reasonable mainstream position that causes someone to call you a tankie

          any other suggestions?

      • jaybone@lemmy.zip
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        Maybe they posted in an “advice” sub. That doesn’t make redditors not terrible at giving advice, just maybe it wasn’t unsolicited.

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      Sucks that you went through that. I’m not sure how I would have done that without getting in legal trouble.

      Also, fuck the haters and trolls. People who don’t know shit always try to give their advice…so anyway here’s what you should have done…

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      I had to help two friends who were in a similar situation, it was stressful for both of them to break up, knowing that there was housing insecurity. Getting all the arrangements together also took months.

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        Yup. It was traumatic enough that ever since then I’ve always made sure that my current partner always has enough money in an account under their name to be able to leave whenever they want. It’s nice knowing that they’re staying with me because they want to.

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    The US seems like an increasingly bigger dystopia for every post about basic human rights that is a standard in the civilised world but they are lacking. But still they keep voting to let the billionaires rip them off decade after decade.

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      Voting, yeah that matters. The institutions are captured. If we ever won a vote, it would be thrown away ajd the oligarchy’s choice would be appointed.

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    Same as people stay in unfulfilling, shitty jobs that pay less, just so they don’t risk losing health insurance or other “benefits.”

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    Found out a month after buying our new house the reason we never saw our neighbors. They were in the midst of a divorce, but still living in the house, with the wife’s boyfriend. So visits were a bit awkward. Fortunately that was right after the housing crash, so they were only stuck in the house for 2 years.

    A lovely young couple bought the place and spent a year renovating it to live in with their kid…then divorced 6 months later. I don’t think couples should live in that house any more, there’s too much bad juju stored up in the walls.

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      I dunno, renovating a house is hard, especially if you are living in it at the same time. You’d want to make sure your relationship is rock solid before attempting that. That said, kids are hard, you’d want to make sure your relationship is rock solid before attempting that, so yeah, maybe its the house …

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    I’d guess most of history in most of the world was little different though. If you break relationship with the group of people providing food and shelter, you might have to figure out food and shelter on your own. As shitty as it is, smart people line up the next relationship before breaking off the old if they can’t do it on their own.

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    Capitalism doesn’t care about minutiae. It only cares about the end results. Unfortunately, minutiae is actual human lives in this case.

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    Oh, get off this dead horse, will ya. Like anything else cannot do this, only capitalism can