For me when I realized I was more grown up than the adults around me, I realized I could relax a bit and not hold myself to such an unsustainable standard. On the other hand I still have lofty goals for myself that I still strive to reach so I’ll pick up a ton of cool experiences along the way and maybe I’ll achieve those pipedreams or maybe I won’t but either way it beats just stagnating and aging in place
I too passed the self-imposed ritual. It has not made me happy, but it helped me understand why I wasn’t.
For me when I realized I was more grown up than the adults around me, I realized I could relax a bit and not hold myself to such an unsustainable standard. On the other hand I still have lofty goals for myself that I still strive to reach so I’ll pick up a ton of cool experiences along the way and maybe I’ll achieve those pipedreams or maybe I won’t but either way it beats just stagnating and aging in place
damn. well said