That’s pretty concerning, my mother went through a similar relationship early in her life, he was older than my grandparents.

You do you, but anecdotally, for her, the relationship may have started out okay, but they were never equal. He treated her like a daughter that he fucked every once in a while. Power dynamics in relationships are extra screwy when the age gap is more than 20 years. Our holiday dinners at home were always very awkward.

Their relationship lasted about 20 years, imo it should never have started in the first place. She remarried afterwards to someone her age and finally found some companionship instead of stewardship, that relationship lasted much longer

Super cool of your parents to support you like that, not cool of them to control you, most parents like this miss the memo that kids need to actually start making decisions for themselves.

By sunk cost fallacy, I assume you mean about the money. Giving them all the money back at once is an interesting idea, how would you feel if a child of yours did that? How would you feel if they were up front about their new situation?

You know your parents and your situation better than any of us, use empathy and put yourself in their shoes and make the best decision you can.

Then next I would examine the redirect and check your stack, is it a 302, 304, etc, is there a service identifying header with the redirect?

After that I would try to completely change your setup for testing purposes, greatly simplify things removing as many variables as possible, maybe setup an api server with a single route on express or something and see if that can be faithfully served

If you can’t serve with even a simple setup then you need to go back to the drawing board and try a different option

You set the A record to your internal ip address from within your router?

Nginx configs have a lot of options, you can route differently depending on the source context

So a couple questions:

1. Do you only want to access this from your local network? If so setting up a domain name in the broader internet makes no sense, you’re telling the whole world what local ip within your switch/router is your server. Make your own dns or something if you just want an easier way to hit your local resources
2. do you want to access this from the internet, like when you’re away from home? Then the ip address you add to your a record should be your isp’s public ip address you were assigned, it will not start with 192.168, then you have your modem forward the port to your local system (nginx)

If you don’t know what you are doing and have a good firewall setup do not make this service public, you will receive tons and tons of attacks just for making a public a record.

It can be hard to put this into words well because it’s different in every situation and making universal statements are rarely correct but I’ll do my best

The problem here is twofold, 1. You feel insecure and 2. Your job is at risk

When interacting with people, not just at work, there are some keys to being well liked. You can be direct, but being direct often comes across as an air of superiority, as if you’re saying “I’m too good to pretend or do what everyone else is doing”. You’re saying you are above thinking about how your words will be received, and it’s the receiver’s job to avoid getting their emotions involved.

In a community, when one person considers themselves better than everyone else via this kind of “better than you” behavior, people will generally consider that person unfriendly or outcast them.

Capitulation and going with the flow of expectations is surprisingly one of the best ways to get ahead, it’s counter intuitive but debasing yourself for the ego of others (harsh way to phrase it, but true) can often make them amenable to just about anything you want. We are remarkably complex, yet fundamentally simple creatures, it doesn’t take much to make a person likable.

I see how you could draw that conclusion, but it’s definitely far from the default

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If an apple a day keeps em away, what happens if you eat 80% of an apple, maybe the real problem is that most of us don’t eat the core and stem, doctors have a very refined apple consumption detection organ that can detect even slight deviations!

2k downloads weekly it looks like not dollars

Who’s taking bets that the next one will embrace the Mormon moniker again

As someone who has experienced feelings for both genders, it has been my experience that feelings can develop without trying to start a relationship. That said there are people out there who are demisexual, but I doubt that would be limited to one gender for you.

Good:

1. I have high hopes that Nepal’s new government will bring positive change
2. Crispr science combined with some new good results with protein models may help us develop some incredible new health technology
3. In the financial world, less reliance on the US, and a shift away from usd in general would be a huge boon to the international community

Bad:

1. Massive economic instability worldwide, inflation everywhere, people will have an even worse time affording things once the worlds petrol distribution eases up
2. taiwan’s troubles are likely to pick up the pace with more international events to smokescreen their bully to the west
3. The transition to ai will likely push more of our society to crime, and lower the payment bar for many professions

Does the uk have free speech?

I do think the scapegoat narrative is plausible, when people have somebody “lower” than them that they can hate and look down upon they stop looking up for answers to their suffering.

The modern political and social machine is more complex than one single agenda, there is no secret entity deciding everything for everyone, though in America the 24hr news broadcasts like Fox and CNN are awfully close to being exactly that. Rupert murdoch and his ilk are definitely master sociologists, and perhaps the outrage benefits them personally.

Humans are terribly exploitable, both from a labor and rights perspective as well as a puny meat brain will believe what you tell it perspective.

Monkey mad that other monkey come and take all banana. It’s an easy narrative to accept instead of addressing the complex and corrupt distribution of wealth.

In my area, the loudest about immigrants often exploit those same immigrants for work on their homes. I saw a guy with a “close the border we’re full” sign on his home using some spanish-only speaking immigrants to paint his house, no doubt for cheap. They literally had to paint around the sign demonizing them.

The ai can visually impersonate so much interesting physics but loses track of a wee flower

That was my experience a few months ago as well, but recently I’ve actually been using it almost exclusively with rust, the extra type safety and language safety features have helped a lot with the end code quality.

Claude in particular has been really impressive with compiled languages, it does take a bit more hand holding to get something workable out than with javascript or python though.

Ohh people are aren’t going to like this

AI coding, “vibe coding”

Clone hero works well though the wammy bar done work for me through the ps2 usb adapter

Nah our ideals are very different

The biggest issue with accepting free housing and other perks is the unspoken cost. What are the expectations in return?

I’ve spent time in taiwan and mainland china, as well as many other asian countries, china has its citizenry riled up in rampant nationalism thanks to the isolation of the people and propaganda. The propaganda of taiwan (and hong kong) being part of china is deeply rooted in the state sponsored group-think and is not going away any time soon. I will say the people I met, while angry when speaking about taiwan, did not seem to wish the people there any ill will, rather they seemed upset about the very idea of taiwan being separate.

That’s all to say, the political situation is complex. However the real question here is multifold. 1) is it against your chosen moral framework to capitulate and live in china and 2) if it is, what are your morals worth to you, what specific monetary amount would get you to renounce your views.

Parts of china are beautiful, the culture is lovely especially in rural areas, and living there could genuinely be nice. However your country is currently presenting the world’s largest bullseye and while your presence won’t swing the final result, if you feel you have a moral responsibility to stay and speak up, then do so!

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