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  • 0x01@lemmy.mltoPolitical Memes@lemmy.worldOblivious
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    After thinking about it a bit I actually think this makes sense.

    Imagine a bully on the playground, in a group of other bullies who have all convinced themselves they’re the victims. The bully has a baseball bat in their locker that they use to terrorize smaller children who wear blue hats because that means they’re secretly out to get the bully. The bully heard one time on another playground a kid in a blue hat hit a kid with a baseball bat, just like our bully. Every time a bully beats the hell out of a random kid at recess there are short term exclamations from the all kids asking for the school to take away the weapons, even though they die out quickly, the bully takes offense at the idea of someone taking away his only tool to protect themselves from spooky blue hats kids.

    He stands tall with the other bullies at recess holding little signs, we dare you to take away our baseball bats! Genuinely simultaneously afraid and empowered. They inflict actual threat of violence because they internally have conjured the idea of violence against themselves.

    In this recess analogy, hall monitors would stand with the bullies, having baseball bats themselves and also being afraid of the blue hat kids.

    If one day a blue hat kid brought a baseball bat to protect themselves the hall monitors and teachers all immediately crack down on them and take it away, because obviously it’s not for self defense they’re “clearly” out to get the hall monitors.

    I don’t think ideologically cops would take guns from people who think like them and ally with them, rather from “rebels” and “others” who start a genuine rebellion against a facist regime. Obviously from the perspective of the enforcement of laws against guns the police are the arm of the executive among the people, but they choose when and where to enforce laws all the time.









  • It’s easy to confuse friendship with deeper feelings, human connection is weird.

    If you’re not romantically into him, you won’t be in a thruple, you’ll simply be sharing your partner with your friend.

    Monagomy isn’t for everyone, and arguably polyamory isn’t for many people at all. I’ve seen a few of these work out but it requires very different mindsets and your mindset right now sounds like it’s on the sexual side (considering it exciting) instead of on the relationship/partnership side. Excitement is short lived, exercise caution.

    Don’t ask the internet, talk frankly with all parties involved. Be aware that the relationship may already have expanded past monogamy non consensually.


  • At almost 30 you’re nowhere near the end of your journey. Many of my peers made most of their life changes after 30 in fact.

    One of life’s great injustices is the amount of work one does in a low paying job and a high paying job doesn’t really differ all that much. Most of the reason highly valued people are paid as much as they are is merely inertia, same with low income. The “poverty trap” is real and takes incredible luck to escape.

    I actually think your decision to stay home is laudable, and in fact I think you should stick with it as long as possible. You have a support structure and the opportunity to expand your horizons!

    Your mental health is tied to your work because our society has shoved that narrative down your throat. You are more than your work, you are a complex and unique person whose value is not tied to your economic station.

    You asked for resources. Those I know who have escaped the trap have done so through things like job corp, training academies, job switching, self study, etc. Don’t be afraid to try new things and invest in yourself, especially into your mental health.


  • I wouldn’t move to wyoming of all places, for sure, that place is hell on earth. The boston metro area is great for aging, especially as you get well into your 80s and your ability to drive flags. The lack of community infrastructure in wyoming will mean you’ll either die or have to go into a home as you age because how will you get groceries? At least in the boston area you have ready access to taxis and ubers and public transit everywhere.

    Don’t forget that the politics of wyoming are vastly vastly different than the boston area, you’re going from one of the most progressive areas in the US to one of the most conservative states.

    Living a rural rancher lifestyle requires hardiness and support structures. Most ranchers have generations in the same place, know their neighbors, have local community, etc. You’re coming in as a stranger and people out there hate outsiders coming in. It’s an expensive hobby and a hard job.

    If you like dust, fires, wind, drought, mormons, republicans, big rig black cloud trucks, and guns you’ll probably like it.



  • We have one in an upstairs bedroom from midea, the window slides right between the front and back of the unit and it’s excellent. Our power consumption didn’t increase too terribly much and it’s actually decently quiet.

    Not gonna put the model here but just look for U shaped window units. It has little legs that go outside.

    Don’t get the inside standing units, they’re massive, loud, power hungry, and most of them are less effective than even the cheap window units.



  • Once your partner does what they want at your expense they have decided they are more important than the relationship. Effectively they have already broken the relationship agreement, leaving you to pick up the pieces.

    The modern world is harsh and cold, a lot of people turn to alternative income streams in the hopes that they’ll escape the pain of normal work. However based on his rhetoric he would likely not support you through the same goals, you supporting him when he wouldn’t support you doesn’t make you a good person, just a victim.