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Cake day: June 18th, 2023

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  • This is similar to what I thought. I’ve seen a lot of people really reluctant to accept dysphoria that’s almost always stemmed in like, believing there’s a right process to be trans explicitly so they can deny that belief to people they don’t want to be trans, so this could be a good first step but that mindset may prove to be toxic down the line; only time can tell.

    You can see similar stuff in all the cis people eager to dictate that you should avoid accepting your own transness because, of course, you wouldn’t want to be trans if it weren’t something dictated to you by someone else who wasn’t biased in how you feel and…etc etc. Cis people are weird about that stuff and it’s become genuinely more rare that they don’t try to find ways to weasel in their discomfort over it in language of care these days, which is a constant difficulty to navigate.

    I would say, get care at your own pace, and don’t go backwards just to follow the process dictated to you by others if it’s not what you want; more often than not whether they accept you is already decided regardless of the avenue you take for it.

    Best of luck with everything. It’s a rough journey, but one you kinda have to take in the end.



  • When I lived in rural areas basically the only sign of gay people was the pride merchandise put out by large corporations.

    It doesn’t matter in cities that are full of open gay people, but the universal application of these initiatives means it ends up normalizing this stuff in areas that might otherwise not experience it, and for that alone it’s a problem that these kinds of things are going away.

    It’s honestly kinda wild to me how many gay folks are so “I hate pride stuff!” these days tbh, but I guess that’s differing perspectives for you.



  • It’s clear that you care plenty about this stuff, I don’t think all that was meant as a disparaging thing.

    But you shouldn’t paint gay rights movements as being a boondoggle inherently tied to liberal policy. It’s (presumably unintentionally) insulting, and definitely paints the picture that you don’t care, or that you’d rather side with someone that didn’t give a shit about us.


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    3 months ago

    Yes.

    Being able to be open about your identity is very important to trans people. This is an important element of people’s lives, insofar that even in the face of rejection by traditional society we tend to come out and just face the consequences of it - yes, that includes, for many, rejection by their families, housing and food insecurity, and many other things that are, in effect, downstream of the impacts of lack of acceptance. That’s the very reason why it’s so important to us. We make the conscious decision to seek acceptance knowing it is futile and in most cases results in these things. It’s spitting in the face of trans rights movements to try to insinuate that they should simply pretend to be someone else if it means getting food or shelter.

    For most of us, that was already an option that we threw out because the cost was too great. To see people argue on our behalf that we should simply take a backseat so we can eat? Fuck that, we’ll figure it out ourselves if that’s supposed to be the cost.



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    The fact that you frame “affirming your identity” as such a pathetic offering shows how little you think of LGBT folks in this context tbh.

    Look, I get the anger, but keep your sentiment pointed in a way that doesn’t imply that gay people are the enemy soaking up valuable time and resources, or at least listen to us when we say we’re uncomfortable with you painting the symbols of our self-determination as cheap tokens to be eschewed from leftism if it wants to help people.

    The rainbows aren’t hurting anyone.


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    What’s the problem you seem to have with gay rights here? Going out of your way to label that one party is supporting “rainbow ribbons” seems a little iffy considering all the trans people that are about to get systemically targeted by the right-wing that won an election basically on a smear campaign against us.





  • Yeah, it’s genuinely a problem when you just want to not see entire instances based on the userbase they culminate. I wish blocking instances would actually block the users associated with it, but alas.

    I’ve taken to blocking everyone @lemmy.ml on sight since every time I see them it’s some vitriolic rant about how trans people are class traitors or some other weird shit I don’t wanna see, but it is a bit of extra effort and annoyance each time a new one pops up.




  • Google isn’t their employer, it’s the contracting company. The contract not being renewed is inherently a business decision between two busines entities, which is probably going to result in the contracting company laying off the workers but that can’t be directly tied to Google because…Google didn’t hire these people, they hired a company that happened to employ them.

    Is it a loophole? Possibly, depending on the structure of the two businesses in question…but it’s very unlikely to be suddenly declared illegal, it’s been common practice in sectors for a while for basically that reason. Contractors get the shit end of the deal and that needs to be addressed directly instead of pretending they’re already protected by laws.