Thank you, I didn’t realize that. My only experience was stumbling into a post some time ago and seeing someone asking a question being told to shut up because they started the question with “As a man…”. Seeing that was genuinely triggering for me.

While knowing it’s trans inclusive does make me feel better, this still reminds me of the ally debate we had in the queer community 20-30 years ago. Queer spaces should be welcoming to allies but allies must be aware that there are certain expectations for them. There is still zero tolerance for anyone that steps out of line. I think that has worked very well and won us a lot of progress and unity and support and love and acceptance, which is what I want.

I’m always torn about these things. I love the idea of having women-centric spaces where we can be ourselves without masking. I want that. But I can’t resolve the ethics of excluding allies, and so it’s not something I can personally justify being involved with. I don’t want people to be treated like that or excluded because of their sex or gender. I’ve lived through that and it’s awful.

I know I’m sending mixed signals, but those things are not equivalent. All of modern society is patriarchal and women face exclusion from spaces their entire lives because of their sex or gender. Things have improved slightly over the decades but this kind of misogyny is still a global pandemic. When men are called privileged this is why. That ignorance is a privilege. Lucky you, that you haven’t experienced this constantly for your entire life. Want to create a “Men’s Club” community? We’ve all been living in it our entire lives. Nothing new to see there.

I still feel dirty thinking about the womensstuff community, though. The first time I stumbled in there I had no idea where I was and someone said “As a man…” and then asked a question, and they were told to be quiet. Women experience that constantly, and it’s worse for girls. So much worse. Especially if you are the chatty type of autistic that I am. Having experienced it, I would never subject others to that. I felt that interaction viscerally and immediately blocked the community. I understand wanting to have a safe space, and I do have those with certain private groups, but seeing that behavior was awful. Even queer spaces are welcoming to allies, and I feel inclusion of allies in all social matters is critical for progress to happen.

It’s definitely common and it’s been around forever. We’ve always been here, but the vast majority of guys on the internet are so fucking toxic we just hide it. It’s true for me, at least. There are reasons I avoid PvP games like the plague, avoid toxic places like the Steam Forums, and refuse to use voice chat unless it’s a private game among friends. It gets hammered into you the first time you make the mistake of thinking you can participate with a group of boys, and that goes back before the internet. The internet creates an illusion of anonymity that makes those bad traits infinitely worse. So we mask and hide, but we’re here.

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I forgot that community existed. Segregation gives me the ick to such an extent I blocked it. I think it’s the only non-german-language community I’ve blocked.

A publicly visible forum isn’t a safe space. I can go to a discord channel for that. I would never think to tell someone to shut up because of physical characteristics. That’s precisely how social poisons like transphobia propagate. Could Elliot Page post there? What about Hunter Schafer? What about enbys? Jack Haven? Do we demand genital inspections like MAGA gestapo? Would you exclude my partner for failing to pass some feminine-enough test?

Segregation of public and publicly visible places is fundamentally and ethically wrong. I will help build the louisettes to dismantle the patriarchy, but I won’t exclude people even their “type” has traditionally held a position of privilege. It’s not right and it makes us the baddies the misogynistic claim we are.

My point is, I don’t like anything about this. ESH. I don’t support or endorse any of this, from the community to the alleged interlopers. It’s all wrong.

I haven’t seen much Islamophobia here specifically, but all of Lemmy is generally anti-religion, while still being very humanist. This comment was particularly horrible by any standards because of the sheer lack of empathy for widespread human suffering. That is not merely anti-religion, it is anti-humanist, and that is why it’s being downvoted.

But can’t run them at 8k with every option turned up to Ultra therefore the Steam Machine is garbage and the game engines are unoptimized and the developers are lazy. /s

It sounds like Fox News licensed it from another company called Gulf Stream Studios. She probably had no idea.

I installed CachyOS for a weekend and it’s now been several months. I love it.

But I would never, ever recommend it to a new user. It still requires someone to be comfortable on the command line and it’s possible to break it if you don’t know what you’re doing.

Bazzite just works. You install it and start logging into your accounts. It’s nearly impossible for a newcomer to break, and perfect for the vast majority of new Linux users.

Recommending Cachy to new users hurts not only those users but the entire Linux ecosystem.

I don’t recommend Mint, either, but only because I am a KDE cultist, I hate Cinnamon, and every time I’ve tried it on anything I’ve had frustrating hardware issues that I have never had on Fedora.

I’m BlameTheAntifa and I have a distro-hopping addiction.

Install an outbound firewall and be horrified by how much Windows phones home and how much telemetry it continuously exfiltrates without your consent.

Yes, but now the malware is telling you it wants to invite friends over for tea.

He was always bad. There are no good billionaires.

You can find all the best fan curves on OnlyFans.

It’s the slavery, sexism, kidnapping, torture, and murder that sours me. The terrorism, too - but because Saudi Arabia sponsors it, not because of Bin Laden.

One way to solve that is to stop going to Reddit.

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You’re not! This internet stranger is rooting for you!

It is the year 2025 and reality has unraveled to such an extent that Poe’s Law has the made the /s mandatory on all occasions of sarcasm or satire.

Surprise, it’s the one trait that rots at the core of all authoritarians!

https://theauthoritarians.org/

No, I’d prefer entire legislatures. If it worked, we’d already be done.

We have more than enough to meet everyones needs - food, water, shelter, clothing, health care - many times over. Conveniences are things that are nice-to-have, but that everyone would still enjoy after all their fundamental needs are met. Hoarding for personal gain while other people suffer is hoarding. This is not a philosophically complicated issue.