I would just like to point out, regardless of Violet’s identity, this kind of post, or more the discussion around it stinks of Reddit content. This is the type of stuff that made Reddit suck.

Sure she posts thirsty stuff, but that’s just a shitpost style. Upvote, downvote, or block and move on. If you suspect it’s bait don’t eat it.

I moved recently. Looking forward to starting it up again in my new neighborhood

Solar panels need an aperture.

Again, though, using gravity batteries or pumped hydro is a great way to manage excess juice, though these are expensive options.

We do, but then life gets in the way. This week we are dealing with an outbreak of hand foot and mouth, which our house has been flattened with every spring for the last 3 years.

Me, Married, 40, and with two young kids:

No shit.

If God exists, he’s got a lot of fucking explaining to do when it comes to kids with cancer alone.

Let alone the finances fuck

This is my take, too. I’m objectively decent looking, but there’s no way anyone other than Mrs. Shovel be able to tolerate me.

I just about spat out my coffee. Lmao

This isn’t reddit; we don’t have a host of frothing-at-the-mouth pendants. You don’t have to label stuff for the most part.

The only real no-no people will jump down your throat about is posting AI stuff (unintentionally or not).

A self-aware nice guy!

Don’t be so hard on yourself. The negative self talk really doesn’t help. You know this already, but probably don’t know how to stop it.

Some framing that might help: you are human. You’re allowed to make mistakes. Just because you’re not perfect doesn’t mean you are worthless. Your flaws are much smaller than you make them out to be, and flaws themselves are just areas you can improve in if you put your mind to it. You have a good mind, so use it to build yourself up and be the best version of yourself. No one else is watching you, really, apart from the guy looking back at you in the mirror.

Sincerely, a recovered NiceGuy™

I was going to say Gibson. he’s slowly making a comeback though. Here’s hoping he took a long look at himself in the mirror

Nice is the bare minimum. I don’t know why people think its more valuable.

These were all amazing

I’m with the other commentator - you sound young. Nothing wrong with that, but our brains don’t fully form until 27.

When I turned 27, the pop of me pulling my head out of my ass was heard by rural farmers in India. I’m now 40, and I wish I knew now what I knew then, so badly.

This is a very long winded way to say, don’t paint yourself into a corner with dislike of formal education. Figure out what it’s about it that you don’t like and work to find a way to address or at least cope with it. Online courses are fine to learn things but they aren’t widely recognized by employers, should you wish to work.

One of the things I learned and pass on to my mentees is that it’s often the experience we don’t like that’s the most valuable. That doesn’t mean suffer unnecessarily, but if you are in a tough spot learn what you can from it. In my case, I hated working with contactors, but that work is what got me a much better job where I’m home all the time.

Think about the best version of yourself and what that looks like. What are the major goals you need to meet to get there? What are those goals broken down into? How do you know if you met your smaller goals? Your objective (best version) is met though sequential steps and measurable progress

You: but, what if we were just like REALLY good friends? Put that away please.

The thirst is real, and with here it isn’t about hydration

I suppose, but I also smell subsoil for the presence of hydrocarbons, soo…

Not just archies, like another commentator points out, but Geo’s and pedologists too

In soil science we sometimes put soil in our mouth to determine between silt and clay or silt and fine sand