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  • Ok so you’ve had a lot of people talk about how your friend isn’t the same person anymore and you’re probably going to have to end it, so I’ll address the other underlying fear here.

    You can and will make new friends and won’t be lonely.

    The best advice I can give for making friends is going to things where it’s a large social event that has a shared interest. Conventions for whatever nerd stuff you’re into are great for this. Historical reenactment groups, anime, comics, whatever. When you’re at a place like this, you already have an in with people because you’re into the same thing as everyone else there and can talk to them about it.

    Getting interested in other people always makes you more friends than trying to get them interested in you.

    I’ve made more and longer friends in my 30s than I did in any other phase of my life. You seem like an empathetic and caring person, and kindness can get you a lot of friends out there. You’ve got this!





  • I think you really don’t know what a false equivalence is.

    So yeah, could tell you about how the exit polls said most people voted based on the economy and it wasn’t because Democrats hint at helping trans people or how the right demonizes them.

    Or that your strategy of trying to become diet conservative doesn’t work, especially since the Democrats have and are basically doing that.

    Or that the same goal could be achieved by getting more election and voting change, like ending gerrymandering and putting in ranked choice voting.

    Or maybe I’d meet you halfway and say if the Democrats decided to rebrand stuff as “helping all Americans” rather than outright saying that it’s for trans people, they might get some of working class rural Americans on their side. Maybe.

    But since you don’t figure out what a false equivalence is, I’m not sure you’d really get it, ya know?

    And since you’re willing to throw my friends’ lives away rather than look at other options, I’m not really keen on talking to you much.


  • It’s false equivalence because, again, these are two separate scenarios.

    The first is your hypothetical assumption based off of a completely different culture and time period, and the second is, you know, the here and now in the present day. Factual reality.

    Arrogantly going “well I think this would’ve gone badly if they did something completely different totally equates to what’s happening now” is a pretty ballsy form of false equivalence. You can’t even come up with a real scenario to compare the present situation with.


  • Actually people had much less of a beef with homosexuality before the 50’s and the pink scare. Lord Byron was like, an open bisexual. Victorians has nipple rings as a fad.

    Also abolitionists and suffragettes and the like weren’t exactly wildly popular.

    Your hypothetical scenario is not only uninformed, but also a false equivalence. We don’t live in those time periods, we can focus on more than one thing at a time, and you’re also fixing blame on the movement to make things better rather than on the people who are actively making things worse. You should be blaming the rich for making global warming worse, not the people who are fighting against it and losing because they are daring to say trans people shouldn’t be a problem.