Shitty property planning with no off-street parking results in people needing to park on the street in a car centric city where you need a car to function.
Not city/property planning’s fault tho, it’s the people with no choice but to park on the street that are the problem!
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Ffs, sure there is the case of some dick parking outside your home, but the real problem is with city and property planning. Not the fault of individial owners by and large.
You seem deeply affected by them caring now and not before. Are you worried they will convince him? If not then they will eventually see it worked itself out and stop caring. If not, well they aren’t involved in your relationship so what do they matter? Not everybody will like you, it’s wasted energy to try and make that the goal.
Where do you get that statistic? You were given a second chance. Tons of people who commit infidelity get second chances for various reasons. The problem is it is a very personal betrayal that pushes a lot of people emotionally. This has nothing to do with men specifically, only that they don’t want to see him hurt. You don’t either, right? So you are really on the same side.
Past experience. Past knowledge. The more often than not correct belief that people don’t really change. If the norm is that a cheater is always a cheater, and you see a friend who was hurt by a cheater get back with them, it is only natural to warn that friend.
Simple as that really. I wish you luck getting through it, but if you truly feel there is no chance of a repeat performance and your bf believes you, why care about well intentioned warnings?
Communication is the most important thing here. The point about you feeling it better if she sees you as a man is a sticky one, but her doing that if that is how you wish to present is a signal of respect for your wishes in the relationship. Her only wanting to do one thing and not taking an interest in what you like is also something you really need to talk to her about. Make it clear what you want, and how you feel about feeling like you are the only one taking interest in doing what she wants.
Really, talking is how you resolve this. But be prepared for it not to go how you expect or something feasibly not being workable. Keep yourself first and make a judgment call on how much you are willing to put up with. People can change, but it takes genuine desire, deep effort, and backsliding and regression can happen.