I’ve asked for lists rather than her telling me tasks while I am busy, and then gets upset if I forget.

My defense is that if I can’t make a physical note, and I likely will forget, then text me or write it down. She says I should just be able to remember.

I agree that more details help with this. I had hoped someone would relate and share their experiences based on vague information.

I’m working on a longer post and will post it tomorrow after I’ve had a chance to sleep, so that I can read it with a fresh perspective.

I found that therapists tend to focus on helping resolve her issues with me and disregard my issues with her, even if they are related. I haven’t felt heard in our therapy sessions. One therapist we tried even started our first session with a comment on how they generally agree with the wife.

I think it is because my wife complains about common issues that women face. The problem is that her issues are overblown or untrue. She still gets sympathy and focus.

My therapist has seen the cold side I see; however, no one else has. My sister-in-law is beginning to notice things, but she still suggests that I change, rather than asking her to.

We have tried therapy. I even tried to get her to join me with mine. In short my therapist said she is cold.

She says I use ADHD as a crutch to get out of doing things or to attempt to absolve myself of my wrongdoings. She does not want to provide me with accommodations because I am an adult and should have the ability to work around my deficiencies and not force her to do more.

Assume I’m a good person asking for help from those who can contribute. I mentioned that more details will be coming after my shift ends. I’m confused by the purpose of your comments. I don’t see what is being added to the conversation other than a suggestion to communicate better.

Please assume the best of my intentions and that the 101 steps for help are understood.

All I could imagine is that Lemmy devs and others thought they were wasting their time and should contribute to Lemmy. And people didn’t like Java as a choice.

I think he’s trying to justify the project given some of the hate