I’ll say some innocuous sentence and it gets interpreted as angry.
A lot of ND people get this. I have had people turn on me over nothing at various points. I have tried to understand this phenomenon for years. I would be misread or misunderstood even with the most plain and succinct dialog between them and I. In my experience it usually boils down to them having bad reading comprehension or/and they were judgemental.
I don’t think this is a you problem more the people misinterpeering you.
When I tried to reach out into spaces it would tend to happen, people don’t try to get to know you and base judgements on basically nothing. I’ve been driven out of places from people doing that kind of stuff more than a few times. To be attacked and pushed out when I’ve not even said much… Part of the reason why I don’t bother reaching out anymore, I have enough issues trying to talk about myself without that happening, now I try to keep my posting clear and concise.