Pretty much title, I’ve got a formal wedding to go to in October and I’m not a formal person. Can I wear these docs without looking like a jerk

  • BenchpressMuyDebil
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    7 days ago

    Yeah, penny loafers or tassel loafers would work as something more relaxed. Depends what they mean by “formal” on the invitation. Black or dark brown. Maybe you could find Sebago Joe penny loafers on sale somewhere as a lower end option. G.H. Bass Weejuns are supposedly not good these days though. Massimo Dutti should have something if you’re shooting lower and are in EU.

    For a step up from Sebago in EU there’s Meermin, Carmina, TLB Mallorca etc.

    • iamericandre@lemmy.worldOP
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      7 days ago

      Says tux preferred but black suit is ok too. I’m a little annoyed here because I have to buy a new suit since I never really attend formal events.

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        Oh if it’s a tux (as in, not “suit” but actual tuxedo) then you can’t really do loafers. I think the only option that makes sense here is black cap toe oxford.

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            Still, go for oxfords. Don’t have to be cap toe. Make sure they’re not brogue. People probably wouldn’t bat an eye at derbys either, but oxfords are best. ‘Black suit or tux’ really isn’t a dress code that allows for any loafers whatsoever. If it HAS to be one of the two pairs you posted, go for the ones with no contrast yellow stitching, as they’ll at least draw less negative attention (but likely still some, since they specifically stated a dress code like this).

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              6 days ago

              Not technically loafers but opera pumps would also be appropriate–though a big statement these days–with a tuxedo, if OP is determined to have slip ons

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        My rule was, if I am attending an event rarely in my life, then rental is more appropriate. But semi frequent, like one event a year, buy a black suit. It doesn’t hurt to have, and also a blue navy blazer for semi formal events were you have dress up but it is not tux formal. A black suit can be made very formal with white shirt, tie and loafers. Or more informal with fun shirts and more fashion shoes for other big events. A well tailored suit is a powerful item in the wordrobe.