Hi, so I’m a high school student and I happen to be trans FtM. I know I’m quite young, but I do believe in the importance of supporting trans people, even young people just in general.

I was born a girl (obviously) but now I’m a guy named Anthony. When I came out to my social worker “Mrs. A” (not her real name or initial), she said that she was proud of me for coming out, but that if I wanted teachers to refer to me as “male”, “he/him”, Anthony, etc. that I’d have to come out to my legal guardian.

The thing is my guardian isn’t the most supportive of trans people. I came out to him a few years ago and he said I was just a confused girl and that “the left was just pushing their agenda onto me”. He loves me, I’m sure he does, but he definitely wouldn’t support me.

I told my therapist and a good friend of mine and both of them said that was breaking a rule of confidentiality. My sister told me that too. My therapist wonders if it’s to get it changed on paperwork or something but says that if I want to be called Anthony at school, there should be no problem.

What do you all think?

  • mrcleanup@lemmy.worldEnglish
    121·
    1 day ago

    Start calling your social worker Dick. Refuse to stop until she proves she isn’t one.

    If she can treat you with disrespect, you can to.

    Be sure to say it kindly though, as if it were her real name and act confused when it bothers her.

    • hitmyspot@aussie.zoneEnglish
      9·
      19 hours ago

      It sounds like the social worker respects them and calls them by their new same and correct, preferred pronouns. They just said that if they want others to do the same, officially that they would need to come out to their parent.

      I know some schools in the USA started implementing such a policy, so it could be that. However, it could also just be insensitive or pressuring them to come out to their parent when they don’t feel comfortable doing so.

      I wouldn’t jump to condemn the social worker without more info. On a personal level they are offering support but they also need to help traverse the political and beurocratic realities trans people face. The worker should be helping them overcome it, of course.