• UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world
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    2 days ago

    Idk what OP is doing wrong, but in my experience bartenders and service workers are always hooking up - with each other, with patrons, at after work social engagements…

    The job sort of requires you to be social, to be friendly, to engage with strangers, and to empathize with other people.

    That’s not to say the relationships last. Plenty of drama in the service industry, too. Lots of substance abuse. Lots of cheating. Lots of traveling, boom and bust with the economic tides, and risk taking for better or worse.

    But the idea that you’re just a bartender for ten years and nothing is happening in your life is crazy.

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      10 years as a server in a sushi restaurant, from 21 to 31, made me think this is an Asian dude who’s parents own a sushi joint and he is required to work there.

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      You are missing one crucial aspect.

      90%of greentext is completely fabricated.

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        If this is true or not is almost irrelevant, these people exist, male and female.

        I might have become one of them if not for just sheer luck.
        Neurodiversity can have all kinds of effects and not being able to connect with people can be one of them.

        Just be kind, to your fellow humans, not everyone can do what they want to do.

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            Here ya go: https://www.healthline.com/health/pregnancy/can-pregnant-women-eat-sushi

            tl;dr:

            “Undercooked or raw fish increases the risks of exposure to certain types of bacteria during pregnancy and is more likely to contain bacteria and parasites,” says Dr. Lisa Valle, DO, OB-GYN at Providence Saint John’s Health Center.

            Listeria, a bacteria that causes listeriosis, is a type of food poisoning that can pose a serious health risk for you and your baby. And pregnant women are at a higher risk of getting listeriosis.

            In addition to vomiting and diarrhea, it can cause preterm labor, stillbirth, and miscarriage. Additionally, if a baby is born with listeriosis, there can be problems with their kidneys and heart, as well as infections of the blood or brain.

            To help prevent listeriosis, the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) recommends that pregnant women avoid eating sushi made with raw fish, among other foods like hot dogs, lunch meats, and unpasteurized milk.

            I guess you could probably have like vegetable tempura or avacado rolls or something, but depending on how it’s prepared it might still be around the raw fish.

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          Holy fuck. Do you really think sushi is as dangerous as alcohol to a fetus?

          The two aren’t even close.

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            People try to avoid known risk factors when pregnant, some stuff really is bad to roll the dice on. A lot of newly pregnant people also go overboard avoiding stuff that’s classified as dangerous. It’s not an unusual thing to say.

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      I know a lot of people like that. Likeable, but something just keeps them from forming those kind of relationships even just for a hook up.