My advice is to get off the internet and get involved with your community. Go to social events, not with the intent of finding somebody to date but with the intent of making friends and connections. Show up as yourself, don’t try to be somebody you aren’t in an attempt to impress, that’ll only mislead people.
Our society treats dating like job interviews, you get an hour tops to make a good impression on a total stranger. It works for some people who are naturally attractive whether it’s their looks or charisma and because that works for those people other people try to emulate that and get frustrated that it doesn’t work for them. Even if it does, that attraction is often superficial because it’s based on a false version of themselves.
In my experience it’s much easier for attraction to grow naturally between people who interact regularly and is more likely to last when those people are showing up as themselves from the beginning.
My advice is to get off the internet and get involved with your community. Go to social events, not with the intent of finding somebody to date but with the intent of making friends and connections. Show up as yourself, don’t try to be somebody you aren’t in an attempt to impress, that’ll only mislead people.
Our society treats dating like job interviews, you get an hour tops to make a good impression on a total stranger. It works for some people who are naturally attractive whether it’s their looks or charisma and because that works for those people other people try to emulate that and get frustrated that it doesn’t work for them. Even if it does, that attraction is often superficial because it’s based on a false version of themselves.
In my experience it’s much easier for attraction to grow naturally between people who interact regularly and is more likely to last when those people are showing up as themselves from the beginning.