The number of upvotes on this is concerning. It means there are a super majority of people who voted on this comment that don’t know how to talk to others, and feel alone.
Mate, similar to how others have commented, you’re in a self-fulfilling cycle. You have to learn to just be relaxed first, talk with people for the sake of it, making friends, having fun.
Randomly approaching a woman, isn’t a great way to strike up a conversation that leads to something more (outside certain more familiar contexts like a party).
If your intentions are only “I’m gonna hit on this woman”, then you’re always gonna be creepy.
Woman are just people. Get to know people in general and you’ll have a much better time.
There are dozens of times a day where you can talk to people: in line, at work with colleagues, on public transport (if someone happens to mention something you know about and it’s not a private feeling conversation), hospitality staff, etc.
These are not suggestions of how to find a partner, but of low-hanging opportunities for conversation.
You may still be unattractive, which depending on why, you may or may not be able to work on, but this STILL doesn’t stop you from making friends or generally enjoying being around others.
The way you’ve commented is learned helplessness, and I truly wish you the best, and hope you take steps to pull yourself out of it, with the support of those around you (and professional help, if it’s something available to you).
The number of upvotes on this is concerning. It means there are a super majority of people who voted on this comment that don’t know how to talk to others, and feel alone.
Mate, similar to how others have commented, you’re in a self-fulfilling cycle. You have to learn to just be relaxed first, talk with people for the sake of it, making friends, having fun.
Randomly approaching a woman, isn’t a great way to strike up a conversation that leads to something more (outside certain more familiar contexts like a party).
If your intentions are only “I’m gonna hit on this woman”, then you’re always gonna be creepy.
Woman are just people. Get to know people in general and you’ll have a much better time.
There are dozens of times a day where you can talk to people: in line, at work with colleagues, on public transport (if someone happens to mention something you know about and it’s not a private feeling conversation), hospitality staff, etc.
These are not suggestions of how to find a partner, but of low-hanging opportunities for conversation.
You may still be unattractive, which depending on why, you may or may not be able to work on, but this STILL doesn’t stop you from making friends or generally enjoying being around others.
The way you’ve commented is learned helplessness, and I truly wish you the best, and hope you take steps to pull yourself out of it, with the support of those around you (and professional help, if it’s something available to you).
All the best friend.