When I was a kid, my mom always be holding my hands, especially like when we cross the streets. And I remember at the time, I kinda half disliked it, because I always felt like my movements were being too restrictive, like… I feel like I was too close and I wanted to like move around, look at surroundings, trees, squirrels, etc… She was always afraid I’d get lost, or like… god forbid… get hit by a car.
She also tried to hold my older brother’s hand with her other hand, but he of couse was older and felt embarassed by it so he refused.
I sometimes just run off and go ahead of her because I was bored and felt like she walked too slow, and like I wanted to peek inside a store from the glass window, for example, then we get to a crossing, and she grabs my hand again. Now thinking back, that was actually so wholesome. Like it kinda feels safe and secure being held on to closely.
The memories I remembered of this was around when I was 8-12. Any older than that and I think I just got tired of it and embarassed and I refused lol.
My dad never tried to hold my hands… I guess fathers are just different lol.
Did your parents do that? Did you like it?
No, not that I remember. It’s not that they don’t love each other; they do. It’s just that they show it differently through actions rather than physical touch. My parents are Chinese; physical touch isn’t that common in East Asia. And their parents (aka my grandparents) didn’t show them love through that way, so I grew up mostly receiving love through actions, too like my mom buying/cutting fruits while I’m studying.
Oh I meant like did your parents hold your hands to keep you safe so you don’t run off or get lost.
And I’m ethnic Chinese too, I was born in mainland China, I never really saw my parents holding hands with eachother or ever kissed, or even a hug. But like… my mother really just like to hold me close lol, she also encouraged me to sit on her lap. So like in terms of affection towards their children, its very much a thing, at least in my childhood, not sure about other kids, but they just never show affection with their spouses…
Ohh. Whoops, I misread your question. In that case, also no. They usually use words to tell me to keep close majority of the time when I was a kid. I wasn’t the type of child that would run off whenever I wanted because I would listen to them (their scoldings, warnings about stranger danger). As I grew up, they trusted me enough to let me wander around at an event we were at or something by myself because they knew when and where I would report back. Basically, I was responsible enough at a young age.