I think my personal usage of the word ‘queer’ might be a good example to help describe what I mean.
I personally have a strong dislike for labels. Often people label me as a quick way to describe a list of traits they think I am. Often I do not neatly fit that list of traits which ends up with the other person upset that I am not neatly categorized and predictable.
However, as much as I hate labels, I still need to find community in this modern world. Talking with my therapist, we both agreed that ‘queer’ is probably the best compromise. It’s nothing too specific and it’s broad enough to be overall inclusive. I did not want to meet a specific group. Not gay, not bi, not poly, not trans, or any specific group. I wanted to meet all of these people in a general, inclusive space. In my area, the word queer happens to attract that diverse crowd I want to surrounded by.
I’ve been around by the type of people misinterpret my words my whole life. That’s why I choose to speak and type in the way that I do. I’m attempting to remove ambiguity. By removing thier tool of defining words as a weapon, it reveals that they can’t really defend themselves or their awful hidden views.
Why do you assume that most people are using words as weapons? I was honestly relating to what you wrote until the last paragraph. Especially about “awful hidden views”. In my experience the worst possible way to communicate is to take a tiny statement that does indicate anything bad in particular and assume it actually does. This is why all the infighting on the left happens imo. “They only said/think that because [leap to horrible thing that no one said]”
I’m curious though, who is questioning your use of queer? That sounds exactly like the modern definition of the word to me. Not sure I’ve noticed anyone disputing that.
Am I assuming most people are using words as a weapon?
Did I say people were questioning my use of the word queer?
I’m discussing a common manipulation tactic that’s often performed which is happening in this meme. Something often used to derail an argument by forcing people to waste time talking about the definition of words rather than continuing a conversation about concepts as a whole.
Manipulator’s to me are like magicians, they hate when people talk about the tools of their trade. And I love talking about the tools of a manipulators trade. This just so happened to be a meme about a manipulators tool.
I asked for an example of people getting annoyed about you using a word wrong and that’s what you gave. This conversation has been confusing, but I don’t think we actually disagree after all.
I’m also confused as to how I am changing the subject talking about people who are stuck on defining words in relation to a meme about people stuck on defining words.
At the very least we don’t disagree on something after all this and that’s something positive.
I think my personal usage of the word ‘queer’ might be a good example to help describe what I mean.
I personally have a strong dislike for labels. Often people label me as a quick way to describe a list of traits they think I am. Often I do not neatly fit that list of traits which ends up with the other person upset that I am not neatly categorized and predictable.
However, as much as I hate labels, I still need to find community in this modern world. Talking with my therapist, we both agreed that ‘queer’ is probably the best compromise. It’s nothing too specific and it’s broad enough to be overall inclusive. I did not want to meet a specific group. Not gay, not bi, not poly, not trans, or any specific group. I wanted to meet all of these people in a general, inclusive space. In my area, the word queer happens to attract that diverse crowd I want to surrounded by.
I’ve been around by the type of people misinterpret my words my whole life. That’s why I choose to speak and type in the way that I do. I’m attempting to remove ambiguity. By removing thier tool of defining words as a weapon, it reveals that they can’t really defend themselves or their awful hidden views.
Why do you assume that most people are using words as weapons? I was honestly relating to what you wrote until the last paragraph. Especially about “awful hidden views”. In my experience the worst possible way to communicate is to take a tiny statement that does indicate anything bad in particular and assume it actually does. This is why all the infighting on the left happens imo. “They only said/think that because [leap to horrible thing that no one said]”
I’m curious though, who is questioning your use of queer? That sounds exactly like the modern definition of the word to me. Not sure I’ve noticed anyone disputing that.
Am I assuming most people are using words as a weapon?
Did I say people were questioning my use of the word queer?
I’m discussing a common manipulation tactic that’s often performed which is happening in this meme. Something often used to derail an argument by forcing people to waste time talking about the definition of words rather than continuing a conversation about concepts as a whole.
Manipulator’s to me are like magicians, they hate when people talk about the tools of their trade. And I love talking about the tools of a manipulators trade. This just so happened to be a meme about a manipulators tool.
I asked for an example of people getting annoyed about you using a word wrong and that’s what you gave. This conversation has been confusing, but I don’t think we actually disagree after all.
I’m also confused as to how I am changing the subject talking about people who are stuck on defining words in relation to a meme about people stuck on defining words.
At the very least we don’t disagree on something after all this and that’s something positive.
:/
The meme was about pretending to care about definitions.