• Bondrewd@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    I would argue that making a mistake or not knowing does not count as misgendering.

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      1 year ago

      The mistake is still a misgender. It’s just whether it’s interpreted as rude or not.

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        1 year ago

        Once they are corrected, it will be MUCH easier to tell if they’re intentionally being rude or not.

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          I misgendered a trans person I worked with once when nobody else was around. I tracked him down later and apologized. He said if he spent all his time being mad about that, he’d always be mad… but I made sure to get it right after that.

      • Bondrewd@lemmy.world
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        Noo. You have to know the gender to commit the act of misgendering in the first place. You have to believe it is x and yet use y.