I’m not really sure if I have adhd or not at the moment and I just realised this. I’m not sure if this is related to adhd at all but I just find it weird looking into peoples eyes, when I listen to people I usually look out a window or something and sometimes people ask me weather I am listening and I didn’t even realise I was looking out a window I kind of just assumed they knew I was listening.

Also as a side note, I have a lot of symptoms of adhd but I’m not sure if to enough of an extent, since I see a lot that everyone has the symptoms of adhd just not to the extent of someone that actually has adhd has.

Do you also have that one comment in the bottom of your lemmy inbox that you’ve been meaning to respond to for the last several weeks or months but you keep putting it off?

Do you also sit on your couch or bed and just stair out the window for like 30 minutes or longer at a time?

I also have struggle focusing on school work, this hasn’t always been the case but it’s a lot more now. Once the coffee from the morning wears off I can’t focus for long enough to finish a small portion of a single Maths question before I’m staring out the window thinking about something completely unrelated, then about 5-10 minutes later I realised I’m distracted.

You’ve probably also noticed a pattern at this point, I love staring out windows!

  • 18107@aussie.zoneEnglish
    19·
    3 days ago

    Avoiding eye contact is typically associated with autism, but there is a lot of overlap between autism and ADHD. See also AuDHD

    I often get overwhelmed with too much information when making eye contact, and I’m rarely able to listen/understand while making eye contact. The easiest way for me to listen is to be looking anywhere else. This does not always go well in a corporate environment, and did not go well when my parents were trying to reprimand me.

    Phone calls or online meetings instead of face-to-face meetings can help (if you can cope with that). Otherwise, learning when eye contact is socially necessary and when you can relax a little can go a long way (or so I’ve heard, I still haven’t mastered this one).

    • pineapple@lemmy.mlOPEnglish
      1·
      3 days ago

      do kinda doubt I have autism. I have many pretty good friends and while I do find it uncomfortable talking to new people I think thats pretty normal to some extent. Although I may be wrong.

      • erebion@news.erebion.euEnglish
        6·
        3 days ago

        I definitely am like that and definitely am autistic.

        Did you know autistics not only often struggle to talk to new people, but can also have friends… unlike what many people claim?

        • erebion@news.erebion.euEnglish
          1·
          3 days ago

          Also, please don’t say “have autism”, that’s painful to read. People might be autistic, but they don’t “have” it.

          Another thing to avoid: “person with autism” (It is: autistic person)

            • erebion@news.erebion.euEnglish
              1·
              2 days ago

              There are no specific symptoms, it’s too complex. There are things that often occur, but for some people the opposite might be true and they are still autistic.

              The best to learn more is to read as much as you can and make sure what you read is good quality, as there’s a lot of bullshit out there when it comes ro autism.

              • pineapple@lemmy.mlOPEnglish
                2·
                13 hours ago

                Thanks. That was really arrogant of me to say I have friends so I mustn’t be autistic, the only autistic people I actually know have many friends and I am friends with quite a few of there friends.

                Anyhow I do notice that I have a few tenancies like extra attention to detail such as when choosing a spoon from a cutlery draw I will usually go through a few spoons to find one I like the look of. I also find things that move in nature really interesting, like creeks or rivers. Also I mentioned this before I recently found a recording of me watching an entire washing machine cycle. I’m not really sure if that is even a symptom or if it’s just me, I’ll look into it.

                • erebion@news.erebion.euEnglish
                  1·
                  9 hours ago

                  To me there are more things in there that seem autistic, but then it is also impossible to tell for sure from just one comment.

                  One thing in particular is noteworthy: Being friends with quite a few autistic people. Autistic people often end up becoming friends without knowing they’re autistic, just because they often connect much better than with neurotypicals.

                  One thing that is often associated with being autistic is fascination with flowing water, but ADHD folks could also find that fascinating, of course.

                  • pineapple@lemmy.mlOPEnglish
                    1·
                    5 hours ago

                    I ment i am friends of friends of autistic people, I’m not directly friends with autistic people. Sorry I phrased that kinda badly.