I’m letting people who hurt me in the past live rent free in my mind.
One episode involves a former landlord that tried to run me over in an intersection with no traffic cameras.
Another one involves a manager that fired me for informing that one of his favorites yelled during night shift and ignored alarms to talk. He fired me the next day, used the exit interview to tell me everything I didn’t do right (but kept quiet about his favorites, even though I did the job like them), still had the utmost confidence on his favorites, accused me of being lazy and instead of simply firing me and keeping neutral he chose to take it personal, proceeded to try to scare me insinuating I wouldn’t work for his system again, when that failed, tried to humiliate me and then fired me. This was in an non union hospital.
When I think about it I get angry. Id like not to be so thin skinned, but here I am.
Honestly, therapy. I basically had the same reaction when my coworkers, who i thought were pretty alright, would cough in my general direction and say survival of the fittest because I was wearing a mask during peak covid. I had a lung condition that put me at high risk, and I told them that… And that lead them to be even more hostile to me, openly saying they hoped I’d get covid and die off quickly.
I struggled with the fact that people can turn on you so fast, and that people couldn’t do the minimum effort to prevent someone they know from dying. We used to be cool, pretty often we went out to eat and hung out outside of work hours, then in the span of a couple months they were practically verbally assaulting me every day. I talked to a therapist and it really helped. I barely remember what they told me since it was years ago now, but it got me through it and I rarely think about it now.
What fucking assholes. I’m sorry you had to endure that and I’m glad the therapy seemed to help you. <3
That’s awful. Coughing on someone especially those at high risk for covid is literally assault and a fireable offense.
I work in an area where it’s impossible to record their behavior, and since there were so many people doing it snitching wasn’t an option. They were smart enough to only “joke” when management was within earshot and resume actual harassment when they left.
I still work with that same group, funny enough they went back to being buddy-buddy once I got vaccinated and was able to drop the mask.
I have forgiven them in the sense that I don’t think about it when I interact with them, but now I know how selfish they are and how they’d happily push me into a wood chipper if it meant they could avoid having to wear a small piece of fabric on their face.
Yeah, I suspected it’s the kind of work place environment that normalizes this kind of shit. It sucks that these jerks aren’t held accountable.
Going cold is an interesting reaction.
I know several people who during the worst days of the pandemic handled their fear of covid, by turning cold.
They all viewed themselves super-healthy and unable to catch covid. In their mind covid was a problem for old and sick and it was totally OK for them to die. They were even viewed as the reason for covid spreading. Any restriction to safeguard people from covid was an insult and something taken away from them and given to other people. This resulted in hostile oppinions that it’s actually good that old and sick die.
After those people finally got covid, they were absent for a long time, but all had the same story that “it was just a mild flu”