Personally, I have never gotten the hype by the names “baby,” “babe,” “bae,” “honey,” it feels forced to me. I’ve seen those TikTok videos where as a joke people will address their spouses by their real names and the spouses get mad and say something like “my family and friends can call me that, but you can’t.” I’ve never gotten the seriousness of it. If we already know we’re boyfriend and girlfriend, or husband and wife, why should I have to address you by those names? Again, I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with saying them, but using real names should become more common as well.
It’s very normal to call your partner by their first name. It’s also normal to use pet names.
Both are normalized.
Probably something you won’t need to worry about until you start showering daily.
Never had that kinda problem when it comes to dating. And until I do, I’ll keep showering every other day, like normal.
We use both and never wasted a second thinking about it. Why do you?
Find something more productive to do with your mental capacity. It’s their relationship, not yours. It’s none of your business and your opinion is not asked for. I have no earthly idea why you think you are that important to anyone to say some generalization on something so mundane.
You have your right to your opinion and share it with the Internet and now it’s up for a rebuttal. It’s between them. If they want to call each baby or babe or honey it’s their relationship. They aren’t asking for your participation. They are most certainly not asking for your evaluation either.
First you said “my opinion was not asked for” then you said “I have the right to my opinion and to share it with the internet.” You contradicted your entire statement. I never said it was a problem, I said using real names should be more normalized. It’s called unpopular opinion key word “opinion.” You’re the one wasting your time getting overly offended for people that you don’t even know.
That’s not a contradiction. That’s a fact. You have the right to your opinion, but the minute you share you open yourself to others opinions of yours. And I shared mine. It’s none of your concern.
lmao how is it a fact if you’re saying the exact opposite of what you said before? Make it make sense
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But we don’t care what you think. That’s the point.
Again, you keep responding, you clearly care.
Been with my SO for 10 years and we use pet names!
Honey and babe we use, they’re short and sweet! A quick “Honey dinners done” is to the point, and I’m indicating I’m ready to have a sweet ‘intimate’ moment with her. It doesn’t feel forced to use at all, no cringe feelings. We both find it endearing :).
BUT that doesn’t mean I dont use their name lol. If I know she has a headphone in, ill use her name because I know she’ll catch on that I’m calling for her quicker. Or if its for something more serious, like I need you come look at this with me. Oh and especially in public, as others have pointed out.
sorry you find it cringe babes we just love each other ❤️
Glad you and that person have a great relationship. I just think it’s fine and normal to use actual names as well.
It’s heavily because you call out to your SO a lot, and their full name is a mouthful.
Typically words like “babe”, “hun”, etc are the lowest effort pet name. The “b” percussive is one of the easiest to pronounce.
Usually this is simply to make communication faster and easier, “hun” is way faster to say than whatever their full name is.
This becomes do commonplace that after being together for many years, their full name is reserved for emergencies.
Like if you cut yourself or are hurt or whatever, you instinctually use their full name to grab their attention and alert them. (People alert to their full name way easier and can hear it better)
This results in producing an alarm “wtf?” response when you use it casually, it makes them whip their head up and their brain goes “is something wrong?”
Then when they realize the situation is fine, it becomes a sort of “you spooked me for nothing! Don’t!” result.
You effectively reserve the full name only when you are trying to get their attention.
It is common to use actual names and sweet names, and nicknames are common, as saying a full name is a little formal. I may use the full name when wanting to get the attention of my partner.
I can’t be sure of the popularity of the opinion since I’ve never heard anyone talk about the subject online or in person.
I would, however, question whether or not one is more common than the other. Tiktok is a pretty bad place to judge reality from, and I can’t say I’ve ever been in a household where given names vs “pet” names were noticeably out of balance. Mind you, I was only in home health for maybe 17 years out of the total of twenty I was doing that work, so the sample set is smaller than it could be. Plus, that sample set leans hard to people that were over 50 and/or dealing with health issues, so that could change things too.
Anyway, the generic pet names weren’t something I experienced being used more than the “actual” name. Now, that includes variants of a name that would appear on ID, like an Elizabeth being called Beth, since many people prefer diminutives to their full given name.
Now, personalized pet names are pretty commonly used more than given names. Like, I used to date this really wonderful lady named Melissa. I would often call her my honey bee (which isn’t unusual for Melissas, since that’s the origin of the name), and she’d call me her teddy bear. So we never really used the generic ones at all, but the use of the personalized terms of endearment was still roughly equal to our given names (and we both use the full version of our names).
So, I can’t tell if your opinion is popular or not, but I’m moderately confident that using “actual” names is already normalized. It’s a common thing, and pretty much everyone I’ve known uses both pet names (generic or personal) intermixed with given names with at least approximate frequency.
My ex and I exclusively used first names. That or “dummy”.
Eh, for me typically petnames have been used in private, like at home, and actual names are used in public. Also, with my experiences, the pet names were usually more unique than “honey” or “babe” etc. It usually was generated from an inside joke or the like. Both endearing and slightly teasing.
Names like “Brandy” “Skit skit” “smidget” or “One step”
I use baby naturally, some Spanish cutesy pet name, or a nickname that I made up because that’s what feels good for me. Honey strikes me as weird or distant like some exhausted married couple on a tv show, so I have never used it. Babe also feels off to me too. But, I don’t really care what other people call their romantic partners unless it’s something interestingly different. I think that you should do whatever you want in your relationships.
Some of it is personality. I call my wife by the short form of her name but I do that with pretty much everybody but she calls me by various things but she does that with everyone. Like she will call other women honey, hun, sugar, sweety, etc. So we both refer to each other the same way we do others.
At my house we use regular names mostly.
The rest of the time is sarcastic names. She calls me “handsome” or “poo head”, for instance.
when i hear “honeyyyyy”, my immediate reaction is usually “oh they’re not real people”.
I always feel like I’m in trouble when my SO calls me by my name.
