• barkingspiders@infosec.pub
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    I feel like I need to say that if this was your experience you had a really shit therapist and deserve better. I’ve felt like this with a therapist before and it’s terrible. It’s ok to drop a therapist over this and try a different one.

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      Seem like just opening up to a friend and them questioning things. Doesn’t sound like a proper therapist.

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      My bet is this is fake. A large part of incel groups is making sure no one seeks help, so they stay longer. If you demonize therapists then that’s one more path to then existing removed.

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        I know better than to assume that anything posted to 4chan actually happened, but I also know from personal experience that moments just like this one DO happen to people. So even if this particular story is a fiction or was intended to serve some other purpose, it’s portraying a familiar moment for many people and I wanted to acknowledge that and encourage people to seek better help.

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        You can actually say “ass” here, btw.

        Fuckin’ mainstream social media-ass comment.

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          I read it as “better help uhh therapist” because of the stupid ass self censorship. I’m not blaming the user for doing it, just annoyed for natural real world language getting hamstrung to satisfy advertisers. How long until “tisk tisk tisk! You can’t say ‘ahh’, that’s a naughty word!”?

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            That’s really, genuinely never made sense to me. If I’m going to say “freaking cold” it has the exact same meaning as “fucking cold”. So what’s the difference? Yet one is acceptable and one is, *clutches pearls*, a bad word. :O

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            Personally I prefer “arse” with an uppity RP (Received Pronunciation) accent.

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            I’m not going to downvote you for this, because you’re allowed to think that, but I want you to know that I want to because you’re wrong. Lol

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          Yeah but saying ahh is funny

          Ass is just crass (also, this has the same energy as redditors who complain about emojis)

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            I mean, if the specific word you want to use seems to be an inappropriate tone, maybe find a different way to say what you’re trying to say instead of injecting a filter-bypass replacement for the same word you didn’t feel was an appropriate tone?

            Betterhelp-coded therapist

            Sounds like Betterhelp’s caliber of therapists

            Lemme guess, this “therapist” was via Betterhelp

            For a couple of examples

            Edit: I see you didn’t post the original comment. Oops!

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      So many people have this experience and never come back. Took me 4 to find the right one. (Meaning good at their job and had a good raport with me)

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      I feel like I would be a better therapist than this and I have no training or desire to get in that field! But I sure as shit wouldn’t go out of my way to shame someone with low self-esteem who’s literally trying to improve themself. If that conversation was verbatim, I’m not exaggerating when I said the therapist should be suspended.

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        Welcome to America, where we have degree mills you can buy doctorates from and an understaffed health industry that will take whoever they can get. Never trust that a medical professional will act with your best interest in mind until you’ve established a relationship with them and know they’re actually competent.