Hello,

I could use an online friend who wants to help me focus on what’s most important in life.

I wasted most of my last 15 years. In last year or so, I lost +30kg, started hiking, physiotherapy, weightlifting, therapy, social dancing. My life changed twice. Second change was almost too good to be true.

My todos are related to

  1. health (discipline, routine, self care),
  2. relationships (facing my fear or what I avoid, choosing right person(s)) and
  3. financial life (adding value to land I own, choosing a business to focus on).

I’m in my early 30s, straight M, and I am usually in EU. I can probably visit you if you are in EU.

  • CarbonatedPastaSauce@lemmy.worldEnglish
    19·
    1 day ago

    I am so happy for you for all that self improvement! It’s really brave to put yourself out there like this, too. I’m on the other side of the planet but I hope you find some folks close by or at least in a compatible time zone!

  • C A B B A G E@feddit.ukEnglish
    10·
    1 day ago

    That’s an awesome set of improvements - well done!

    I can’t promise to be any use to you, but I’m glad to swap ideas about what the fuck to make of our 30s…

    • cabbage@piefed.socialEnglish
      4·
      1 day ago

      Sweet user name!

      More on topic, the 30s are messed up indeed. Or maybe it’s just that I’m now in my 30s and the world is fucked. In either case I’m not a big fan.

    • cabbage@piefed.socialEnglish
      4·
      1 day ago

      Welcome here! It’s more focused on public discussion and less on individuals here, but there are some friendly communities around here as well. I hope you’ll like it, but it might not indeed be the best platform for developing proper friendships. :)

  • partial_accumen@lemmy.world
    4·
    1 day ago

    First, well done on all the improvements you’ve made to yourself. You should be proud not only of identifying what it was about yourself you wanted to improve, but also following through with it. Well done!

    I could use an online friend who wants to help me focus on what’s most important in life.

    …and…

    1. relationships (facing my fear or what I avoid, choosing right person(s))

    On the relationship side,

    A. Relationships are bidirectional - part would be showing care and concern for the person you’re looking to interact with. A friendship should be bi-directional. You’re stating what you want from the relationship here completely in divorced from anything your potential friend would want or need. Where are you showing concern and help for the person you want to be friends with? Why would someone want to be a friend if you’re starting the relationship with you just receiving, and not giving in return?

    B. Show value - Besides the attributes of being a breathing and speaking human (those have value too), what special talents or knowledge do you have that you can help your friend in achieving their goals?

    These are components for all relationship, but specifically for friendships too.

  • shittydwarf@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
    5·
    1 day ago

    Are you following any weightlifting program in particular? I got a barbell and a rack during Covid and turned myself into a brick shithouse with 531 and tactical barbell. /r/weightroom is the community I miss the most from reddit