I still don’t get why people have such an issue calling people what they want to be called.
You don’t balk at a guy or a girl named Robin, or Alex, or any of a hundred different androgynous names…
But you take issue with “he”, “she”, and “them”?
Why?
My only problem, and to be clear this is entirely my problem, nobody else’s, is that I’m so dumb, I frequently forget and call someone he/she when they prefer they/them. I fuck it up sometimes. I try, but decades of societal norms are getting in the way of me getting it right sometimes.
To every person who identifies as they/them please forgive me because I’m going to screw it up. Just correct me when I say it and hopefully in time my brain will stop making this mistake.
It’s pretty obvious when someone misgenders by mistake or reasonable ignorance. If someone gets upset about that it’s probably because they feel insecure about it at that point in their journey. Just correct yourself if you catch it and move on, be open to civil feedback if you don’t.
In any case if you feel unsafe around someone because of their behavior then consider spending less time around them. You don’t have to feel like you’re stepping on eggshells if you’re making an honest effort to learn and improve.
I still don’t get why people have such an issue calling people what they want to be called.
You don’t balk at a guy or a girl named Robin, or Alex, or any of a hundred different androgynous names…
But you take issue with “he”, “she”, and “them”?
Why?
My only problem, and to be clear this is entirely my problem, nobody else’s, is that I’m so dumb, I frequently forget and call someone he/she when they prefer they/them. I fuck it up sometimes. I try, but decades of societal norms are getting in the way of me getting it right sometimes.
To every person who identifies as they/them please forgive me because I’m going to screw it up. Just correct me when I say it and hopefully in time my brain will stop making this mistake.
Because a bunch of bad faith actors have been carefully building an outrage-generating cash machine on the idea of ‘culture wars’ for decades.
Culture war, race war, nationalism wars…
As long as it’s not a class war, they’re okay with it.
It’s pretty obvious when someone misgenders by mistake or reasonable ignorance. If someone gets upset about that it’s probably because they feel insecure about it at that point in their journey. Just correct yourself if you catch it and move on, be open to civil feedback if you don’t.
In any case if you feel unsafe around someone because of their behavior then consider spending less time around them. You don’t have to feel like you’re stepping on eggshells if you’re making an honest effort to learn and improve.