• Bosht@lemmy.world
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    1 month ago

    Honestly, I get it’s a green text, but this is pretty easily explained. First off: dating is fucking expensive, and unfortunately standard gender roles means the dude foots the bill most of the time. Yes times are changing, but that’s still pretty standard. Pair that with the fact that dudes usually have to make the first move (again, old gender standards) and the fact that social media adds another layer of risk of being ridiculed or making someone viral because they were ‘crimge’ or ‘gave the girl the ick’ and it’s a pretty stacked deck. Hell, point one is such a strong weigh in that it’s enough to explain all of it. People are more broke than ever, and if dating by default involves going out, well guess that date isn’t going to happen.

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      Agreed. Cost of living and wealth inequality are getting so bad it’s breaking society. We see it everywhere and it’s weird to prioritize non economic explanations.

      Although hetero dating is just total bs, speaking as a queer gal. All that old cruft is rotten and it’s gotta go

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        1 month ago

        Yet again Capitalism is the issue

        Is there any problem that wouldn’t be fixed with wealth redistribution?

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          22 days ago

          The inequitable amount of influence the 1% gets from owning the means of production. Given time this will erode whatever wealth distribution scheme you have in place.

          See the minimum wage for an example.

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            22 days ago

            Nah if the total wealth of everyone is forced to be equal then their power is equal.

            Assets are wealth.

            The CEO or board wouldn’t own anything more of the workplace than their janitors do.

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      I went out on a first date with this woman recently and we just split the bill 50/50. It was a refreshing change of scenery. I think that should be standard so that nobody has any expectations on either side. As time goes on you can figure out how to allocate cash flow but first dates should never be 100% on one gender, unless one of them are rich (in my opinion at least.)

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      1 month ago

      First off: dating is fucking expensive, and unfortunately standard gender roles means the dude foots the bill most of the time.

      Not an excuse for most Lemmy users. Most American Lemmy users make far more than the average American. I have seen Lemmy users legit bitch that they only make $80K a year. That’s more than I ever made a year in my entire working life. And I never had a problem dating.

      It’s a personality issue, not a money issue.

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          22 days ago

          Yeah, I definitely wish I would have went that route when I was younger. I’m retired now, so I can’t complain, but I could have a lot more cool shit if I would have made more money! lol