My mom glorifies herself. When parents plan for children, it is the parents’ job to provide for the children. They shouldn’t see children as retirement plan.
My mom keeps guilt tripping me. I finally told her I can’t stand her and she will need to use her money to take care of herself in the future. (I have been paying for her bills.)
What kind of parents put such pressure on their kids? She thinks she has sacrificed a lot of me. She raised me for the first twenty years. I have repaid with interest already.
She needs to stop pressing my button.
In some areas you are legally responsible for your parents if they become unable to take care of themselves. Not saying that makes it OK, but it can certainly be seen as an societal expectation.
She has money. She just doesn’t want to use hers. She wants me to pick up her bills so that she can leave her money to my nieces and nephews as I can’t have any children.
Fuck her then. I’ve been no-contact with my family for nearly 20 years and have zero regrets.