My mom glorifies herself. When parents plan for children, it is the parents’ job to provide for the children. They shouldn’t see children as retirement plan.
My mom keeps guilt tripping me. I finally told her I can’t stand her and she will need to use her money to take care of herself in the future. (I have been paying for her bills.)
What kind of parents put such pressure on their kids? She thinks she has sacrificed a lot of me. She raised me for the first twenty years. I have repaid with interest already.
She needs to stop pressing my button.
Good job for standing your ground and drawing boundaries. I have similar problems but a few years ago I did just that. A lot of anguish and strong emotions went through me as my mother went mad and extremely angry with my choice. This hard decision will pay off, stay strong. I had a friend recommending this book “The Body Keeps the Score”. Never got a chance to read it but it could be helpful.
Thank you. I have talked to my therapist in the past and I had no idea how much I was (probably still am). I care about about my mom but I too be taken advantage by my own mother.
She sees me an ATM and intends to have her inheritance to my nieces and nephews as I have no childten