I am not like people at my work but I like people at my work.
None of that being different matters if you can just listen and talk to others without needing them to be like you.
I will say on the video games it may be a generational thing, my kids love both indie games and Minecraft/Genshin. Penultimate kid liked Disco Elysium so much. Youngest likes horror, I got them Amnesia and they loved it, said it was too scary to do much at one time.
Anyway, just let other people do what other people do. You can like them, you don’t need to change yourself or then
Quit worrying about finding people that understand you and make them understand you. My best lifelong friends I’ve had have grown together with me, went from opposite music tastes to finding bands that appeal to both of us that have become our favorites.
Like if you can trust a person you can be their friend, if you dont know anything about their interests ask them to explain or show you, if they want to be friendly with you they’ll jump at the opportunity.
I mean i kinda get what anon means but maybe the first step could be getting off of 4chan? That shit melts your brain and you already see it from this normie/wierdo split that isnt really a real thing. Irl you WILL find the people who think like you because were all on a spectrum.
Edit: just to clarify i mean spectrum in the way of personality, not the autism spectrum. Tho id argue that some neurotypical people relate more to autistic people than other neurotypicals but thats a story for another day.
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Definitely needs to get off 4chan. Weird people who don’t have this crab in a bucket ‘you’re not weird enough if you have a stable job and aren’t ugly’ mentality aren’t that hard to find outside of very specific corners of the internet.
What the FUCK do you do?
Have you tried getting a boyfriend? I dunno, worked for me.
The masculine urge to get a pet femboy bf
Cute!
Stop the categorys and just be a Person others can be save around and happy
This fucking normie playing pardox games? Don’t talk to me unless you are at least compiling CDDA from source code on a Linux phone. Fucking casuals.
i know its a joke but this ironically proves his point of not fitting in with both in or out groups
Try being an actual full blooded native person.
I’m 100% Ojibway, my parents on both sides were born raised and lived in the wilderness. I’m the first generation born in a modern hospital. My first language is ojibway, I spoke it exclusively for the first 15 years of my life. We learned English in school but we all spoke ojibway at home. I learned to hunt, trap, fish and live on the land from my parents and I love spending time outdoors. It’s all natural to me.
Now I live close to the city in a non native world. My wife is white and we spend most of our time to ourselves.
My family doesn’t think I’m native enough. White people don’t believe I’m native because I live like a city person. Most people don’t believe I’m native because I don’t have red weathered skin, a crooked nose and long braided hair. Many people have confused me as Chinese, Korean, or an overweight Thai, Cambodian or Lao. Or even Peruvian, Ecuador or Mexican.
I meet city Indians who have ancestry but have never lived on the land or know their communities or even speak the language yet they wear native stuff, necklaces and everything and get more recognition than me for being native.
I intimidate other natives when I speak my language because it reminds them that they can’t speak other than to know a few words or phrases. So now I seldom speak and as I grow older, the people I could speak to are now either dead, dying or too old.
I get funding as a native person but I get very little. I don’t live in reserve so I’m the last to get funding. I don’t get off reserve funding because I have full status with my community where I could live if I chose to. I get tax off on some things but not everything because I don’t live on reserve and doing my taxes every year is a nightmare, so in the end, I pay just about the same amount of taxes as everyone else and save just a little.
I’ve watched dozens of half breed, quarter breed, 1/8 breed, 1/16 breed natives with scholarships and paid education while I tried to fight for mine and never got it. I got high school but never got more than that.
I even know a couple of blue eyed, blonde Indians who got adopted into a native family and have full status and more help than I ever did.
People keep telling me I’m lucky to be native but I’ve experienced far too much racism and stupidity to be happy about who I am.
I’m neither treated as full native and I’m also not treated as non native either. It’s like I exist in some kind of native twilight zone.
Dude you are hands down probably the most interesting person I’d know if I knew you, those hunting skills and all that are just awesome yet at the same time you’re also just like a city everyman. If you ask me I’d say fuck them if they can’t accommodate you, you’re a star shining way too bright and too hard and too big for them anyway. I’m sorry about the racism and shit you’ve experienced, I can’t understand or help but at least know that this queer white woman half across the world would say you’re a bigger person than all those racists with nothing to do with their time combined.
Huh. TIL all of this. Thanks for typing this out. I did a bit of a rabbit hole on your people over my morning coffee. Was more interesting than the usual crap I read before work 🤣👍🏻
Damn. Maybe it’s just me but your comment reads kinda disrespectful. OP shares their unique vulnerable experience, which relates to the original post. You don’t make the slightest effort to connect or respond to them as person or their story. Instead you google their ppl for a fun fact and pay their culture/story the compliment of “More interesting than the usual crap I read before work 🤣👍”.
Idk I can’t tell if I’m being overly sensitive, cuz no one part of your reply is really bad by itself. But all together, it’s hella trivializing imo.
Especially ending on the 🤣👍. Let’s say you post something heartfelt like, I’m depressed, I lost my job, I’m dealing with something right now, and someone replies and ends on 🤣👍. Unless there is a really funny joke before those emojis, pretty sure it would read bad.
OP thank you for sharing your story. I’m sorry you’re stuck between two worlds like this. Have you thought about if you and your wife have kids, would you teach them to speak ojibway or how to live off the land?
It’s you.
The only person who gets to judge whether the comment is disrespectful is OP, not you.
“It’s you.”
When you said that were you saying my comment was disrespectful? If so my friend I have it on good authority that the only person who can judge whether my comment was disrespectful was one of the OPs. Since you are not one of the OPs, I’m afraid, by your own logic, you are in fact the one being disrespectful.
Ultimately, I think I get what you mean. On the otherhand I seem to be judging that comment just fine.
I’m not trying to be a white knight over here or some shit. I got rude/bad vibes from that comment, mind you not hugely bad vibes, truly just enough bad vibes above the line for me to call it out.
If OP says comment was disrespectful I’ll apologize, but I’m not gonna stop calling shit rude when I see rude shit.
I would love to learn even half of those things. No one really taught me, I remember going camping with scouts before and another guy was catching shellfish with his bare hands and I was so jealous that he could do it. But in the UK half of its illegal and the other half requires land owner permission which pretty much makes it for the rich only as they own the land. I like the outdoors, but it feels difficult to see and even harder to do so legally. Plus no one I know now has any interest in it so its always a solo activity when I do go out.
And yeah that guy catching shellfish was breaking the law by doing it, its illegal to use anything other than a fishing rod in freshwater and that requires a license and land owner permission too.
I am also the son of two worlds. From the age of 6, I was always treated differently with one group of people compared to the other.
I didn’t get better until I was older, I thought it would in my twenties but it’s actually in my thirties that I found people who accept both sides of me but I always feel like it’s one side more than the other. It has made me a very withdrawn person.
On top of being autistic, I just would rather not deal with people.
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Is this anyone else’s experience? I don’t fit neatly in any box, I have friends in all of them. I have friends in traditional marriages with the woman as the homemaker, I have all sorts of queer friends. I have friends that think videogames are edgy, others playing D&D every second day, others in sword battle reenactment, others in crochet. Never struggled relating to them or them to me. I moved around a lot, still found “my people” in no time. We are all multifaceted people with a variety of interests and thoughts.
Count your blessings
I definetly don’t fit in but also have friends and a partner i live with (of 10 yrs)
I mostly LARP at it though because I don’t fit in. Am 58, m and don’t want to fit in :)
I play the weirdest shit
Paradox
Ok normie
Yeah, Paradox games are great!
Okay but normies don’t play Paradox either, so what gives? I don’t want to play “dwarf fortress” or some fuckin “blowjob factory 2: electrification” or whatever it is channers consider weird, but I like playing “The Fire Rises” for HOI4 and I can’t exactly talk to Jock Josh and his friend who’s into spider man and DND about “yoo in the game you can kill penguinz0 as atomwaffen division isn’t that crazy”.
Honestly nothing ever has been more of a disappointment to me than anyone who plays Civ or tabletops of any kind, they always have absolutely no sense of fun and they’re always extreme turbonormies, especially if they’re fantasy people, good lord I’m sure there’s lots of good fantasy media out there and I’ve enjoyed plenty myself (Berserk), but it either attracts the most simpletons or being into it turns you into a simpleton over time or something idk. They only know their dumbass DND, no they won’t play something actually cool like Cyberpunk Red, no they won’t help me try to DM it, they only like their DND and that’s it, DND that, or DNDeezNuts this, it’s aaaaaaagh.
Cities Skylines is a pretty normie Paradox game imo
Yeah fair enough. I guess I meant something more like Vic3/HOI4. I want to say “yoo dude I gave Mexico to the United Fruit Company last night for the buff” and have them say “gave ur mum to pennsylvania forestries last night and she still wants more wood bruv” - or in other words I want to be understood, I would want this to spiral in an intertwined discussion about real history, politics, economics and its representation in-game between reasonable people with sane actual real life beliefs and an insatiable need for cognition and knowledge powered by hyperactivity and focused by stimulants and a lack of al-ghul circulating in the blood stream longterm, for whom there needn’t be the discomfort of unfamiliarity, the guesswork of “are you really insane or just saying that” and weariness of being observed by the ‘Other’. I want to tell someone about the Taipei rebellion for the first time, or to be told about it again.
I feel like civ players would leave the table if I brought that up at a theoretical gathering from my experience.
If only I could converse with others like I could with myself. Then again, I would probably be disappointed anyway.
I have never played either games, but according to your entire comment, I am nothing but invested.
I can also see what some people mean by “Hearts of Iron 4 poisoned mind”
In case you also wonder like op why no one likes you, it’s probably the elite snobbery and superiority complex.
I play tabletop, paradox games, dwarf fortress and a lot of other stuff. I also play with lego and have played Warhammer etc, both fantasy and 40k and other miniature games.
I don’t buy or play a lot of AAA games if any at all. Large companies can fuck off.
What am I? An anomaly? :D
Just a patrician of some sort
This reads like a young man who hasn’t learned how to do things for his own enjoyment yet.
Yeah defeatist mentality suggests he’s still playing the game.
Fake: X4 is not a videogame, it’s rehab for crazy german accountants
Gay: weird, therefore queer, therefore gay
Am german. Went to an economics school (Fachabitur) and fucking hated accounting. I love stellaris though, if only actual accounting would be that fun
Fake: X4 is not a videogame, it’s rehab for crazy german accountants
Screw you, I like my singleplayer-spreadsheets-in-space as a nice distraction from playing MMO-spreadsheets-in-space. Also, I’m Dutch, you ass.
It’d be nice if they let me keep my jumpdrives though, now I have to do icky things like logistics and having multiple fleets defending multiple gates
Just become a line cook you’ll be the most normal one there.
The former gang member and former meth fiend who taught me to cook can attest to this. (Different people)
I’m sure they’d upvote this if
- They were on this gay ass forum
- Had enough feeling in their fingers to actually hit the button
But they’re busy being people.
because op doesn’t want to accept his innate normieness.
How can he be a former meth fiend if he works as a line cook? Or did he simply get a new drug-of-choice?
As a former bar back and then bartender at a restaurant, maybe cocaine. We did a lot of that with the kitchen staff after hours.
Stay there long enough and you’ll fuck hot waitresses and hostesses all day long and you’ll realize they’re all more fucked than you’ll ever be.
Maybe anon is just an asshole.
